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Post by John on Apr 30, 2007 10:06:18 GMT -5
Well that's OK JJ. Firmly grasp the lightbulb between your thumb and fourfingers & turn it CLOCKWISE until you detect it is in...Do Not Over Tighten ! I will still attemp to clarify this concept. Don't worry about asking me over and over and over to present this or any idea in a way you {or anyone else} can fully understand. Believe it or not this also helps Me to understand things fully and complete.   |
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Post by jj on May 1, 2007 0:39:12 GMT -5
Thanks John for being patient with me.  |
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Post by John on May 1, 2007 11:27:39 GMT -5
Developing Self-Acceptance Self-Acceptance is an alternative to boosting self esteem and approaches the problem by removing self-rating. If you don't believe that your value in Intrinsic, or built in, you may have problems concluding that you have any worth when things go wrong. Unconditional self-acceptance, means removing your self worth from external rating of your value as a person. When you view yourself as a fallible human being, this can help you become less likely to consider yourself inadequate or a failure, whose worth remains more or less constant. Self-acceptance makes the following assertions: * As you, your'e a unique and multifaceted individual * You are ever-changing and developing * You can to a certain degree rate or measure yourself. You can never manage to rate the Whole of yourself, you a re too complex and always changing. * Humans, including me & you, by our very nature are Fallible & Imperfect. * *And BECAUSE you are a unique and complex individual you CANNOT LEGITIMATELY be Rated or Measured as a whole person.  |
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Post by John on May 1, 2007 11:30:07 GMT -5
Thanks John for being patient with me. How does that prayer go '' Lord please make me patient, and could you hurry it up while your at it'' Hee.hee |
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Post by jj on May 3, 2007 1:11:39 GMT -5
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Post by misty on May 3, 2007 7:56:42 GMT -5
This calls to mind what I have taught Shannon (And what my parents taught me). When someone is teasing her about something or picking on her, I always tell to to look inside herself & if she knows shes doing right & not hurting herself or anyone else, then she can just ignore the teasing. I'm teaching her to look inside herself & to learn to be secure with herself & to realize when shes doing wrong or doing right. To accept herself as she is, without feeling bad if someone else doesn't like the way she's doing something. To not let her peers sway her thinking.
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Post by John on May 3, 2007 10:02:17 GMT -5
Very Good Dawn ~ You get a ''A'' in ParentHood for this month . . . |
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Post by jj on May 3, 2007 10:26:48 GMT -5
This calls to mind what I have taught Shannon (And what my parents taught me). When someone is teasing her about something or picking on her, I always tell to to look inside herself & if she knows shes doing right & not hurting herself or anyone else, then she can just ignore the teasing. I'm teaching her to look inside herself & to learn to be secure with herself & to realize when shes doing wrong or doing right. To accept herself as she is, without feeling bad if someone else doesn't like the way she's doing something. To not let her peers sway her thinking. So if she does let it bother her does that mean she has low self-esteem or doesn't have self-acceptance? |
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Post by misty on May 3, 2007 11:07:36 GMT -5
I don't know. I was taught the same things by my mom. Like say I dyed my hair or got a perm & my schoolmates teased me. My mom taught me to ignore the taunts & just laugh them off. I was to ask myself "Do I like my hair? Is it hurting anyone?". If I did & I wasn't then I would blow off the taunts. It worked for me. To this day I really don't care if people don't like the way I dress, wear my hair, keep my house, my parent style, etc. Its right for ME & thats all that matters. I'm happy & no one's hurt by those decisions. If they dont like my clothes or hair, they dont have to look at me, if they don't like my furnishings, they don't have to visit me, if they dont like the way I parent Shannon, they dont have to adopt my style or listen to my parenting advice. I accept myself as I am & I like myself.
Ok, I'm rambling I think, but you get the point. I think Shannon has great self acceptance & esteem. She does not dress like her peers, yet she has lots of friends. She doesn't care if they like her clothes. She dyed her hair black & none of her friends do that, but she loves it & doesn't care if they like it or not. I'm hoping her strong sense of self helps her to resist drugs, alcohol, & sex as she goes up through her teenage years. That she will have the strength to do whats right for HER & not feel like she better give into the pressure her peers put on her.
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Post by jj on May 3, 2007 21:23:26 GMT -5
I think you are teaching Shannon what all kids should be taught. And I get what you are saying about looking within and not letting outside influences/critisisms get you down.
I'm still not sure what the difference is in self-acceptance and self-esteem. I still think they are the same thing. I just don't see how you could have "self-acceptance" but low "self-esteem" or visa-versa. Maybe I'm never going to see the difference.
I don't want to hold up this thread by my confused mind so I encourgage John to move ahead with his next lesson. ;D
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