I am so frustrated and stressed

[jill]

Sensory can be worse than ADHD at times for lately it is killing me. Annette will not wear pants with Zippers or buttons no jeans and will not wear shoes without velcro (she can tie) and lately if it is not so tight to cut off circulation it is not tight enough and bothers her to the point she kicks them off and refuses to put back on. I am at my wits end and here we are running late for school every morning due to little issues and I end up yelling at her and taking her by the arm dragging her. This morning we were running later and she ended up having a meltdown on top of this and was trying to hit me and kick me when I grabbed her to put her in her room she ducked like I was going to beat her (silly for I have spanked her few times in her life yes I was angry but would never hurt her). I myself walked away and said for her to go away from me and she ran to her room and cried "mommy does not want me anymore". After my brief time out I told her I loved her and always want her and explained to her I never will hurt her and mommies need time outs too now I am stressed, sore throat, and feeling soo guilty. I feel so bad now and everything is getting to me for I do it all alone with no support or help from hubby then my job being so demanding and stressful. All I can do is cry.
Need I add to my stress levels that my car door was frozen and when I got it open will not shut now and I carefully took her to the corner for school and have to go to work soon. Does anyone else deal with Senory? The only help for it is OT and the school does not address it well and cut it back they only work on writing skills nothing else why I go to the poor house in private therapy.

[misty]

I don't deal with sensory, but I wanted to give you

Shannon has a few sensory quirks, but nothing like you are dealing with. I can, however, relate to your frustrated feelings. I've gone through the screaming, the child crying that I don't love her, & of course the guilt. Its hard & I've had those days when crying is all you can do.

I'm sure you'll get some advice from the ones who deal with sensory issues. I just wanted to lend my support.

[lcdc1]

I am sorry you all are having a rough morning, I really hope it gets better for both of you! Sensory stuff sux, I have some of it with clothes and hair and I make myself nuts with it at times. All my sense can be gone if my shoes are not right or if my collar is bugging me or if tags in my clothes are bugging me. I cannot sleep with certain sheets or covers if they do not feel right!

I think we have all lost it with our kids and been way stressed, you felt bad about it, and you followed up by apologizing, you did the right thing.

[jj]

Do not feel guilty for yelling because there isn't a parent out there who hasn't yelled. And I too recall dragging Nikki to go get ready for school and actually dragging her out the door to go to school on occation with her screaming and crying as if I were killing her. (Oh, that was not a fun place to be!)

I have some pretty bad sensory issues so much so that I've went through several T.V. sets & computers because they hum. My clothes have to be just so or thats all I can think about if something is bothering me so I understand your daughter side and I also understand your frustration.

All I can suggest is maybe try some really tight no-seam socks which may give her a better feeling when wearing shoes that aren't "tight enough". I'm not sure if she prefers tight clothing too but some parents use bike shorts under their kids clothes to give them the "tight" feeling.

I wish I was more help but don't beat yourself up for yelling and her reactions. She'll forget what happened this morning long before you do.

Big hugs to you, Jill.

[lcdc1]

Yeah jj, those spandex under armour shorts are an awesome idea. Ran has a bunch of those she uses under her soccer shorts and under shorts and skirts, she loves them. Under armour is one brand that sells them without thos annoying tags, they have not tag at all. I am still trying to remember to buy those seamless socks you all keep mentioning, it usually takes me a few tries to get my sock seams lined up in my shoes!

[carol]

I do not know about sensory issues but do have access to an OT once a week at my job. I could pick her brain and see what she comes up with.

The rat race is the morning with children is frustrating as is. I can't imagine what you go through, but I will say a little prayer for a wave of calmness for your daughter tomorrow.

[jill]

Thanks everyone she does have OT once a week private we pay. My day proceeded to my car door not shutting from being frozen would not re-latch and I had to tie it to get to work. Then at work I am behind on everything two cases of mine is sucking the life out of me and I was busy all day cramming in last home visits and paperwork and it did not help the printer got jammed in the middle of something important that I had to re- do anyways when I realized I left things out. Yes I had a backwards day.

[jill]

So far today is better and our OT person told us when she fusses over her shoes and not being tight enough to just tell her that is is tight as it goes and let her know end of discussion. I will try it however i can see her trying to keep it up for when something bothers her that is what happens. We had special mommy and daughter time last night and I held her against me. I love when I get hugs from her and when she is in my arms i want to protect her from the world.

[lcdc1]

that is cool, sounds much better now. Hugs are good! Sounds like you both needed that.

[jj]

I hate it when my car door freezes and won't shut. It doesn't happen often but it is maddening. And I'm sorry work was crappy too.

I'm glad today is going better and you got those hugs.