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Post by anon4now on Jun 10, 2008 20:03:17 GMT -5
I don't want to go into too many details. I'm nervous about all of this. But my son went to see a new psychologist a few days ago and he displayed some very worrisome behaviors during the meeting. I was "glad" the doctor saw them, but it made me cry the whole time.
Let me back up a little bit. We started the first meeting asking about school, friends, family etc. My son spoke well, displayed normalcy etc. The meeting was done with. The doctor suggested the next week my son do one on one with her. And then the next one on one with me so I could answer any questions the doctor may have about my paperwork etc. She made mention that things didn't seem "urgent" and that reminded me of an incident. (sorry, but I am going to be vague here) So I explained what happened and she started talking to my son and he just transformed into this distraught little boy. He was angry and was telling her all these things, some of which I knew and some I didn't. She sat and talked with him and observed him for an extra half hour. She finally asked me if he'll come out of it, and I told her a change in scenery and just taking the attention off of him will help. So she excused us for the day, and told me she would call me that night to ask me questions.
She hasn't called yet. It's driving me crazy! I shared some of it with my mom and she told me to be prepared to make some decisions about hopsitalization, if the doc should suggest it. I would think if she was going to go that route, she would have either done it right then and there, or she would have called me earlier. I'm also thinking because things were normal at the begining of the meeting, and because I have a handle on things for the most part, I'm just looking for help, that won't be her first suggestion.
What do you all think? And have any of you had to do that for your children? I'm a little freaked, but I'm trying to be optimistic. But I think my mom is right, and I should be prepared for the worse.
TIA
Anon
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Post by bugsmom on Jun 10, 2008 21:07:22 GMT -5
Anon...I haven't dealt with this sort of thing personally, but I do belong to some other forums where parents have had to go the hospitalization route. Most of the time it has been needed because a child had expressed feelings of hurting themselves or others. I would think that if this is the case, your doctor would have contacted you immediately. The thing that concerns me is that your doctor has not gotten back with you. You said it was a few days ago and that just doesn't sit well with me. If you are worried, call the doctor in the morning. You have the right to know what she is concerned with and I think it will ease your mind a bit. Hugs to you.  |
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Post by katiekat on Jun 10, 2008 21:23:45 GMT -5
There was a point where we thought it might be a possibility that Sean's therapist would say that he needed to be hospitalized. Like Bugsmom said it was due to him making comments about wanting to hurt himself. Thankfully she did not think it was necessary and he has not made anymore comments like that since. I agree that you should call the doctor back if she still has not gotten back to you. |
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Post by charliegirl on Jun 10, 2008 21:38:19 GMT -5
I think that if she were considering hospitalization she would have done it then when she saw him being distraught. It may be something she would consider further down the road if the therapy and meds didn't seem to be working but I don't think its imminent. Since she said she would call you and didn't, you should feel free to call her back and ask her the questions you have. You shouldn't have to be a wreck waiting for his next appointment. |
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Post by squirrelgirl on Jun 10, 2008 23:07:19 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you are going through this, Anon. I hope you get helpful answers tomorrow. Until then, hang in there.
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Post by anon4now on Jun 11, 2008 7:00:17 GMT -5
Since this is a large office (not a small private practice) I was thinking, her being the psychologist, would need to meet with the psychiatrist before talking with me. I thought maybe the night of the apt she would call, after the day calmed down, but I didn't hear back. I was sort of feeling, No news is good news. That if they felt we could wait until meeting number 2, then that was fine by me.
Oh, I didn't mention this before, but for those of you that have a small memory of my trials in the past, she did ask about bi-polar in family history without my mentioning it first. It made my heart sink, but at least she's considering it. Unlike the last dr who would just say, "well, it's rare for children to be diagnosed bi-polar." Yea...don't tell me rare, I can tell you at least 3 things that have happened to my son that is rare. So rare doesn't mean crap to me.
Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I'll talk to DH tonight to see if we want to be proactive and call the dr. Otherwise I'll just wait for next week.
Anon
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Post by lcdc1 on Jun 11, 2008 10:45:03 GMT -5
I would say if you are worrying about, for sure call and tell them you were left with unclear thoughts about what was going on and just wanted to make sure there is nothing you are supposed to be doing! Usually if they think the person is a danger to themselves or others, they would have told you to be on the lookout for certain things and they would not have let him go home then. Please call them and put your mind at ease, he is the patient, you the parent, you pay the doctor and that is what they are there for, just be clear on your concerns! Hang in there and don't get stressed, one step at a time!
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Post by anon4now on Jun 11, 2008 15:00:26 GMT -5
Hang in there and don't get stressed, one step at a time!     My past tells me, I will crack at some point. But for now, I'm hanging on ok. The people at my work have no clue what home is like. I can put on my "happy face" and just keep on trucking. But eventually, I will break down. That's what hubby is good for. This too shall pass. I'll keep you all updated, because I'm sure you all are just sitting on the edge of your seat waiting for the next post. lol Anon |
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Post by anon4now on Jun 12, 2008 13:45:24 GMT -5
Ok, so I talked to her today. She did confirm that she felt like I can "control" his mood swings and if I were to become concerned for his safety, that I would bring him to the ER. She wants to get him to the psychiatrist to determine bi-polar, but she is highly suspicious it is bi-polar and wants to start him on mood stabilizers. She wants DH and I to come in to have a talk. Now I just have to convince him he has to go.
I told him today that he should really treat this as a medical issue (just like diabetes) and the parents need to learn how to care for him. I will insist at the end of the day, but I just hope he makes this easy on me and goes.
oooookaaaay, starting to have a panic attack. I'll be heading outside for a minute. C y'all later.
Anon
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Post by charliegirl on Jun 12, 2008 16:04:49 GMT -5
I'm glad you have an idea of what is going through her mind right now. At least you know she has an opinion and is planning on taking steps to diagnose him and get him treated.
I have cousins who are bipolar. They had it as children but weren't diagnosed until one of them got in serious trouble and ended up in prison. They are doing so well now. I know that if Stevie had been diagnosed as a child his life would have turned out totally different. He was never a bad kid, just didn't have the control over himself that he needed. I don't believe they even considered whether a child could be bipolar when we were kids.
I'm so glad your psych is looking into it now for your son instead of waiting until he is older. It will mean that your son has a chance at a normal, happy future even if that is the diagnosis he ends up with. Don't panic. If he has it, you can't change the dx but you can make sure he gets the proper treatment. In this case, knowing is a good thing.
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