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Post by Tigger on Aug 24, 2009 9:53:35 GMT -5
Ok I have had it with my 6 year old!!! He has becamed the most mouthy child I have ever seen. He wont listen, he will tell me and his dad that it is his way. And how many times I have punished him for all of this he dont stop it!!!! He hits other kids, he hurts other kids. How do I stop this I just dont know!!! But I need to do something school starts next monday. And I already know that we will be getting a phone within about an hour to come and get him.
I have tried to do everything with him to get him to behave. I think we are going to have to start spanking him again. I dnt know how else to get thru to this child!!!!!!
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Post by jj on Aug 24, 2009 11:59:11 GMT -5
Tig, have you ever gotten him evaluated? Sorry, I can't remember.
I don't know your circumstances but he is the baby of the family, right? Do you think you babied him and let him get his way prior? I just ask because that is pretty common and then when they start getting older they have a hard time adjusting to not getting their way.
Sorry, I'm just guessing and if I'm way off the mark, forgive me. But I do think you need a proffesional help and opinions on how to handle him.
I feel bad for you. I know you went through a lot last year and it seems nothing has changed during the summer.
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Post by Tigger on Aug 24, 2009 14:44:09 GMT -5
Tig, have you ever gotten him evaluated? Sorry, I can't remember. I don't know your circumstances but he is the baby of the family, right? Do you think you babied him and let him get his way prior? I just ask because that is pretty common and then when they start getting older they have a hard time adjusting to not getting their way. Sorry, I'm just guessing and if I'm way off the mark, forgive me. But I do think you need a proffesional help and opinions on how to handle him. I feel bad for you. I know you went through a lot last year and it seems nothing has changed during the summer. JJ, Yes we did alot of babying him!!! He was really sick baby almost died a few times so we just kept him really close to us. And then every time we let him go just he would get hurt where we would have to head to the hospital and get stiches or a cast. So we just pulled him back in again. So now he is a MONSTER!!! and yes we are wishing we never did. I went to go get him tested for ADHD but we ended up sitting at the appointment aver 2 hours in the waiting room. so now i am going to get him in his normal doctor. so we will see what happens. i do have in registered for a therapy at the school so if something happens they can pull him and handle him. so i hope that helps out alot. but i am pulling my hair out trying to punishing him. hopefully this helps JJ!!!
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Post by jj on Aug 25, 2009 12:37:08 GMT -5
Don't feel bad Tigger. I think many, many parents baby the baby of the family and even more so if they are sick, or the parents find out they have a disability or whatever. So you sure aren't alone here and for the most part, you actually had no choice since he was getting hurt. A little dare-devil you must have. LOL
While you wait for the appointment all you can do is stick to your guns. I'm not sure how far punishment will get you. Maybe try a different approach and reward him for good behavior, if you haven't tried that. Find times he is being good even if he is just sitting and watching t.v. If you do that enough maybe he'll want to be "good" more often. If you get no calls from school those are the times to celebrate. Make a big deal out of it.
That is about all I can suggest. Whatever you are doing whether it is rewards or punishment or both the key is consistancy and yes, I know....easy to say but not so easy to do.
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Post by jill on Aug 29, 2009 14:48:31 GMT -5
Have a talk with him and let him know next time he gets mouthy his favorite thing to do will be in 'time out" or "on hold" until he practices and demonstrates the proper way to address you this way he decides how long the punishment will be. I love my girl's psychologist this is out of his book and what has been told to me. The book is only $15 through his website was in an older post but i can re-put it up again. The book was lent to a friend at work and has not given it back to me so I may have to order another one. Good luck Jill
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