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Post by jill on Nov 20, 2007 8:07:02 GMT -5
My defiant one is flat out refusing to do homework so the rules I made up are no TV or Computer or anything until done. So her choices are homework or sit in time out until then we get the whining and crying and tantrum to meltdown. This is occuring every day now Argggg!
What do you think I am trying to teach her sometimes you have to do things you do not like and used work as an analogy. So now I told her if she does good in school and does her homework she can earn $2.00 a week on Fridays (payday) and if she does less she will earn less. Any ideas welcome?
Her teacher is awesome I love our district she is doing an afterschool program for kids in need of help and 1-2x per week my girl will stay after 1 hour for extra tutoring and they will do homework with her so I have less. It would be more days however the late bus is only 1-2 days per week, if my work schedule was different and I did not need childcare it would work.
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Post by katiekat on Nov 20, 2007 8:33:19 GMT -5
I wish the school here had that after school extra help option. Homework is a huge problem with Sean as well. I had to make the same rule-no TV or anything until homework is completed. Just yesterday his teacher sent home a pile of class work that he did not complete in school so guess who had to deal with it? It took him over an hour to complete.
I also offer a reward for a good week of school. It may be that he can invite a friend over or get to go to the store with me and pick out a treat. Unfortunately it doesn't seem to be motivating him too much since he only had one good week so far this year.
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Post by mumoftwo on Nov 20, 2007 8:53:58 GMT -5
i have the same problem with my youngest, getting him to do his homework is a nightmare, we still have not returned last weeks homework yet, and he was supossed to get more last friday, but his teacher was off sick, so we got off without anymore homework thankgod, lol
i heard a great idea the other day and im going to metion it to his teacher,
instead of the teacher giving set homework each week, they send home a subject and a topic on the subject, then it is down to the child what they do
example: subjet HISTORY topic STONEAGE
the child can then do anything they want on that topic, weather it is draw a picture then explain the picture in words, or maybe just think of a list of words that explain the topic, anything they want
i think this would work much better with my son, he as a great imagination and loves researching on he computer, and im sure he would put more effort into doing his homework if he could choose and have more say in it,
but even then the school day is so long for our kids, and to have to start again when they get home is hard for them,
knowing my luck, il metion this to the teacher about new approach to homework, and he still wont want to do it argghhh lol
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Post by misty on Nov 20, 2007 8:55:11 GMT -5
I found with Shannon that she needs to unwind after school so I let her watch TV or play on the computer or whatever until dinner. After dinner nothing is allowed turned on until after homework is done. This works so much better for her. She no longer fights me & its still early enough that she's not complaining she's too tired to do it. When I used to make her do it right after school, after having to sit & work all day long she used to fight me tooth & nail.
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Post by jill on Nov 21, 2007 19:06:27 GMT -5
The problem here is the later in the evening it gets the more dis tractable she will get. Now I got a call on our machine saying she is being difficult in school and in getting her work done so they are going to try a behavior mod with her which I thought they did have already. I am going to check with her psychologist for she may even need a med adjustment.
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Post by lostmyshoe on Nov 23, 2007 10:23:12 GMT -5
I've had trouble on and off with Becca with homework. Lately she's been doing okay but sometimes I'll see an F because of a homework assignment she blew off. We take away things she enjoys when her work isn't being done and that seems to work. She has to unwind after school like Shannon but we give her an hour and that's it or she gets distracted as the evening gets later too. We've managed to deal with it without meds but I'm wondering how High School will be with an even heavier workload. It's great that you have the afterschool program. We don't have a formal one but the teachers do allow the children to stay after school or when they have a time slot to help them. We just have to call in advance and ask. Our biggest problem is when Becca misses a day from school. Getting her to make up the work is a nightmare. I know how exhausting it can be when they are not cooperating with getting homework done. Maybe after the Thanksgiving break she will feel more refreshed and will be more cooperative. I can certainly empathize with you.
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Post by jill on Nov 24, 2007 15:13:18 GMT -5
I am trying to offer a reward for doing homework without argument and see what happens. I told her if she does well in school completes assignments (a new problem as of late another clue meds need upping) and I will give her $2.00 every Friday like a paycheck and I told her she only does part of the work she will get less money so it remains positive. What I am afraid of she will see she is getting money no matter what and has no concept of money but it is worth a shot.
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Post by puzzled on Nov 25, 2007 20:12:51 GMT -5
jill that worked for me pretty well with chase for a time, then I cannot remember why I stopped....maybe summer came? I may bring it up again for his AR reading....he is struggling with that.
He also needs that break after school before he does homework, thankfully he gets home at 2:45, so he can have an hour or so off, and still get homework done before supper. It was much harder when the bus did not bring him home till after 4.
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Post by jill on Nov 30, 2007 8:11:31 GMT -5
We will see how it goes I am afraid though with no concept of money she will see she is getting something each week and not even care. As for the spank earlier this week she has been a little better since. At her parent teacher conference I did find out there was no consequences for refusal but there will be now her teachers are really nice.
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Post by katiekat on Nov 30, 2007 8:24:09 GMT -5
If she doesn't really get the concept of money maybe instead if she has a good week doing homework the two of you could do something fun together as a reward.
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