I am so frustrated and stressed

[jj]

You know I have heard of parents letting their kids just wear those slippers that are stretchy - you know the kind I mean I hope because I don't know if they have a specific name. They fit really snug and give and are really comfy.

[jill]

Mar 14, 2008 6:30:00 GMT -5 charliegirl said:

I did a search on children's sensory socks and they sell seamless ones made for sensory issues. They have no heel and aren't supposed to sag or twist. Possibly a pair of them in a smaller size would so they were snug would help.

www.sensorycomfort.com/Clothing.htm#Seam-free%20Sensitivit


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*Thanks but it is not a sox issue it is a tight issue she wants her feet to not be able to move in her shoes and wants them so tight the circulation gets cut off. I tried again in a shoe store and nothing made her happy and i had to carry her out kicking and screaming "too loose". This is getting worse by day and i am becoming a hermit afraid to take her anywhere i am at a total loss. I have a psychologist appointment Monday so I am praying for the miracle I do not know what to do. I am finding little enjoyment in my child as of late only feeling stressed. Will this ever end. Thanks for the support jill

[jill]

Mar 14, 2008 13:11:09 GMT -5 jj said:

You know I have heard of parents letting their kids just wear those slippers that are stretchy - you know the kind I mean I hope because I don't know if they have a specific name. They fit really snug and give and are really comfy.

* She dances and is complaining about her ballet and Jazz shoes as well nothing is good enough so there goes that idea but thanks. Is there a shoe that cuts off circulation and fits like a second skin out there? That is what I need.

[jill]

The saga continues and she is at it again full force even after seeing the psychologist. I told her over the weekend she needs to get used to her shoes feeling lose and I did not wish to discuss it any further. Her psychologist agreed with me and added by telling her, her feet need room to grow and shared with her to get used to it and remind herself the reasons why. Well that lasted 2 days and she is back at square one. I took her to a dentist appointment and when I took her to school she acted out in the hallway and threw herself on the floor as other kids walked by. I am embarrassed for her. The school nurse helped me with her and is real nice. The nurse told me she too has an ADHD child now teenager and handled Annette well.
She is at OT now and from what my husband said she walked in and kicked the shoes off and carried on so maybe he would have the solution for us to do. Arrggggg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111

[jj]

Oh, I hope he has a solution for you too. That has to get so old and frustrating. I'm so sorry.

[jill]

Thanks JJ I slept on it so to speak and came up with plan number oh I lost count. Our OT person witnessed her behavior and while working with her she was fine but time to leave she pitched a fit again. He says it may bug her but this is now mostly Behavior and it is out of control. We cannot go anywhere without the meltdowns they are constant.

My new plan is she has to earn TV and Computer time and the more she melts down the less time she will get so it lasts 20 minutes she will lose 20 minutes of that time and if she loses too much then bed early. It is drastic but I do not know what else to do and it is worsening by day. The more TV computer time will be her reward and for weekly reward she gets to choose what we do for dinner (we have been doing or going somewhere 1x per week) or a trip to the dollar store for 1 item. I will also re-enforce the get over it and shoes need to be loose so feet can grow.

Ideas or opinions welcome and if you see on the news a crazy lady jumping off the bridge that would be me.

[katiekat]

Jill, I agree with you & the OT on the shoe issue. You have tried several things that work at first but then stop and I think that basically she will just have to get over it.
I think your plan for the meltdowns is a good one. I have dealt with this on many occasions. There was a period of time where I just refused to take Sean anywhere public because his behavior was so ridiculous and also dangerous. Throwing fits, running away from me, approaching strangers every time we went anywhere. One thing I did that worked (for a while anyway) was whenever we went into a store I gave him 3 poker chips. Each time he had a tantrum or ran off I took a chip. When it was time to leave if he had at least 1 chip left he was able to "buy" a small item. to you and I hope you find something that works.

[jill]

That sounds like an idea. We are still having issues but they are getting a little better. Tomorrow is the Easter Egg Hunt in our neighborhood and I told her any problems we will not leave the house or will leave early. I bet you she holds it together for everyone gets a chocolate rabbit and has a good chance of winning more treats (very few people leave with only what you get for going). There will be someone in a bunny suit and a magician.

[bugsmom]

Jill, I hope you gave a good time at the Easter Egg Hunt. Let us know how it goes.

[jill]

Mar 21, 2008 22:19:18 GMT -5 bugsmom said:

Jill, I hope you gave a good time at the Easter Egg Hunt. Let us know how it goes.

* So this is how it turned out she fussed and complained and her solution put on boots to wear not sneakers which I allowed due to her sneakers Velcro being broken. She had pulled them so tight they broke and my husband bought replacement Velcro and was not done fixing them yet. She still will not put on the original ones 1/2 size bigger. Now to get through Easter with the In-laws my mother in law has witnessed the behavior and told my brother in law to keep his mouth shut or else. He is the one who does not believe in ADHD or that his own kids have Auditory Processing and Dyslexiak, yes he is a jerk. He has already said we do not discipline and that we allow our child to run the house not true. We get a tough fight with the kid but we do discipline and have final say.