Another new mom! Is this the right place?

[omom]

Hi All
Well I am not a new mom, just a new mom here!? ;D
Years and years of aggravation, frustration and confusion and I find myself here, finally. ...
Son is 22.5yrs ( yep, a man, but still my child). He is dx with learning disabilities, maybe ADD. Just failed semester at college, and here we are. Always borderline in studies though 'normal' intelligence.
Need advice /help, something before DH and I go at it! Son is underachiever and we are from NY. He doesnt have a job, driving license, etc. We really NEED help. Sure hope someone has some advice, tips. Thanks in advance

[katiekat]

Welcome omom! Glad that you found us.

[mary2]

Welcome to this great site omom! This is a great place to stick with and enjoy!

I have a 7 year old adhder so I haven't been where you are yet, but I am sure you will find great help and support here.

[jj]

Welcome Omom (cute username),

It is never too late to seek advise and help. I know 50 year olds that finally realized they had AD(H)D. I don't know how much testing he went through in school but if you suspect ADD then maybe a first step is finding out for sure.

Anyway, it is great to have you here. This is a great place to be.

[charliegirl]

This is a great place to come! There are some adult ADHDers here who will be glad to share what they have learned over the years. Unfortunately, there are a lot of adults who have never been diagnosed but that can be rectified.

If you want to go post about your son on the adult ADHD board we can find out what has been done to identify his specific problem and how to get the help he needs. While 20 is older to start than anyone prefers, its never to late to get an appropriate diagnosis and treatment.

[misty]

I agree with CharlieGirl--you'll get more (and better) ideas if you post your questions in the adult ADHD board where more of the right people will see it. My daughter is 13 with inattentive ADD & 2 LD's so I know where you're coming from. There will be others who will give you great advice because they've been there already. Is your son medicated? Does he get any help in school?

You're in the right place. ADHD can be frustrating, but there is a lot you can do to help your child, no matter what the age!

[lcdc1]

hey, welcome to a good place, I am sure you will get some advice and support here or ideas where to look. I am an adult ADHD'er, twice your sons age. I think the thing to do is get a formal look and tests for him if you want some answers and help. Don't know if you have ever done that before or if he wants help. As an adult things have to be bad enough sometimes to force us to seek the help we need!

I am sure we will talk some more once you get comfortable here. Welcome.

[unicorn]

Welcome to the group. As everyone has said, this is a great place for help and support.

[lillian]

I suggest that your son visit the college counseling center and ask about being tested for learning disabilities. If he is found to have them, he can receive accommodations in college under a 504. Has ADD or ADHD ever been suspected?

[annem]

Hello omom and welcome !!

My son will be 20 this year .... and I sure know what you mean by them being a man but still our child !! ... I guess that NEVER changes !!

I am sorry to see that your son is having problems at college ...

Please bear in mind here that everything I am about to say is possibly way off track ... because I don't know all the ins and outs ...

But ... what is your son doing at college? (I mean what subjects etc) ? Is it something he really "wants" to do ? Does he enjoy it ??

I am only wondering because my own son (who is ADD) was an under achiever at school ... he too has normal intelligence but his leaving results were not good ... (ps I am in the UK and they can leave school at 16) ... He then went into college and did a general "taster" course for a year ... (mainly because he had NO IDEA what he wanted to do as a career when he left school) ... so he did a one year "taster" course to start with at college .... giving him some experience with a variety of different things ...

That made his mind up !! .. and he hasn't looked back since.... He wanted to work with wood and be a carpenter.. he realised he LOVED working with wood ... and here were are 4 years later and he is a qualified carpenter and has achieved three awards (with distinction and credits) and is now fully employed doing a job he loves and still attends college one day a week because he has opted to do the "advanced" award ... WHAT A DIFFERENCE FROM SCHOOL when he couldn't have cared less!!

I guess what I am trying to say is that it can make all the difference in the world to find something they really want to do and enjoy doing... which is why I am wondering if what he is doing at college is something he really enjoys ... ??