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Post by puzzled on Feb 10, 2007 13:12:53 GMT -5
My daughter Chelsea (age 20) has always had tons of guy friends...I suspect that they were friends with her because she is very cute, but she says that she liked boys better, because they don't play games. When they are mad at you, they tell you. When girls are mad they tend to backstab and gossip a lot, boys don't. She still has a lot of guy friends, and a few really close girl friends...luckily her boyfriend of 3 years is a really nice, trusting young man, that knows she is just friends with these other guys. In the past, though her guy friends created a problem with boyfriends being jealous and accusing her of cheating on him. And Chelsea is non ADHD, was a cheerleader, and no social problems, this was just her personal preference in friends.
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Post by bugsmom on Feb 10, 2007 16:18:57 GMT -5
You know I find it interesting that all these ADDer's have better friendships with the opposite sex. My Josh has a few close buddies but his bestfriend is a girl. They have been bestfriends since they were very little, like 3 years old. They both go to the same small school and she lives down the street from us. Both are only children, and she has been a God send to him his whole life. He has always gotten along better with girls for some reason. It just must be the competition thing. All the girls at his school love him, its the boys that he always feels he has to compete with. His bestfriend Natalie totally accepts him for who he is. She puts him in his place when he needs it and they really support each other...it very sweet. The boys used to tease him a lot when he was younger, like "Oh she's your girlfriend"!, they were very jealous because Nat is a beautiful girl. Now they all know that they are just best buddies and try to get close to her through Josh. What a riot! Well...just thought this was interesting...
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Post by crazyhouse on Feb 10, 2007 18:23:02 GMT -5
Oh Losty I am so sorry! I went thru those days in school myself. I never quite fit in anywhere I tried for many years to find my place unsuccessful. I to for many years had 3 or 4 close friends and that was it. I tried extra curricular activities but found there was nothing I was execptional at. Later on in life I found true friends that weren't so judgemental. I also found better friends were with guys instead of girls and didn't and still don't appreciate the gossip and backstabbing petty name calling. I'm better than that and so is your daughter. I hope you find some solice in knowing she's not alone.  |
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Post by jill on Mar 4, 2007 10:23:48 GMT -5
I hope things get better for your daughter I feel her pain. I do not have ADD but was always heavier and terrorized for it. I was never popular and had only a small group of friends. I worry about my girl as she gets older for she is naive and will do anything for a friend. She also does not get it when she is ignored she will run with them parallel playing and think she is included when she is not. She is only 7 and I am working on that with her.
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