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Post by misty on Jan 2, 2008 18:01:51 GMT -5
They said no because for one thing he communicates with others. Now having done some reading I learned that although Aspergers is on the Autistic spectrum it is different from Autism. People with Aspergers DO talk to others and are often early talkers with large vocabularies-which Sean was. Also the fact the he does not "stim." He does not rock or hand flap-but those with Aspergers do not necessarily have to do those things. From what I have learned unless a doctor has lots of experience with Autism that Aspergers is frequently misdiagnosed. The Autism spectrum is quite vast. I know a boy that is Dxed Autistic & yet he communicates very well with other, will even look you in the eye quite often. He gets straight A's in school & has many many friends. I also know a man in his 60's that's autistic....he cannot hold a regular conversation, yet he knows everything about every celebrity, dead or alive. He cannot hold a job & his tongue is constantly hanging from his mouth. Obviously these 2 people are on opposite ends of the spectrum & I'm sure there are infinite variations in between. |
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Post by jj on Jan 2, 2008 22:51:58 GMT -5
Everything you are saying about your g-nephew sounds just like Sean. Is he officially DX'ed or are they in denial? Just wondering since you said they don't like to talk about it. And yes, the hot chocolate and skiing are both things that he saw on TV. He also repeats things back that he heard someone else say. Sometimes he doesn't even know what it means but he will just say it. He often repeats things that were part of a conversation on a tv show. He also uses words that are too "old" for a child his age. He will say "can this be mended?" instead of fixed like most kids would say. He often uses words incorrectly as well. Like once I asked him how his day was and he answered that it was very faintly. I think they are either in denial or just don't want anyone to label their kids. She homeschools them all except this year the G-nephew I mentioned is in a Christian School and he is doing really well academically but socially is not doing well at all. I actually think my niece and nephew-in-law are doing a wonderful job with the kids so I'm really not upset they are NOT TALKING about it and that they haven't gotten an official DX that I'm aware of. I have never stuck my nose in so far that I asked them about it but I did ask my sister (niece's Mom) and she basically told me not to ever bring it up with them. |
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Post by katiekat on Jan 2, 2008 23:25:29 GMT -5
I guess some people are just like that although it's not exactly helpful to the kid. Joe has a friend who has been to my house a few times and he is just so rude. He would walk in my house and act like I wasn't even there and just make rude comments. Then another mom told me that this boys mom doesn't want anyone to know but he has Aspergers. And then I understood why he acted the way he did-that he wasn't just a little punk. I think by keeping it a secret she is doing the poor kid a disservice.
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Post by charliegirl on Jan 2, 2008 23:31:18 GMT -5
People with Aspergers DO talk to others and are often early talkers with large vocabularies-which Sean was. Also the fact the he does not "stim." He does not rock or hand flap-but those with Aspergers do not necessarily have to do those things. From what I have learned unless a doctor has lots of experience with Autism that Aspergers is frequently misdiagnosed. My nephew has aspergers and he started out with a large vocabulary early on. He never did the hand flapping either. He is very friendly and talks a lot, craves attention from people he knows well but he also needs a lot of time to himself. His mom homeschooled him from jr high on and he wasn't into studying but seemed to absorb knowledge on his own. He was misdiagnosed until he finally went to a neuropsychologist when he was 23. That was only a year ago and he just started college for computer stuff this year. He loves it and seems to be doing very well. Finding out what is really going on with a child is key to working with them successfully. If Sean does have aspergers, just knowing it will enable you to go forward instead of spinning your wheels trying to get help. |
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Post by jj on Jan 3, 2008 23:10:40 GMT -5
He often uses words incorrectly as well. Like once I asked him how his day was and he answered that it was very faintly. LOL, I can't help but chuckle at that. I guess some people are just like that although it's not exactly helpful to the kid. Joe has a friend who has been to my house a few times and he is just so rude. He would walk in my house and act like I wasn't even there and just make rude comments. Then another mom told me that this boys mom doesn't want anyone to know but he has Aspergers. And then I understood why he acted the way he did-that he wasn't just a little punk. I think by keeping it a secret she is doing the poor kid a disservice. I don't know KK. I'm kind of torn on this. I do think the outcome of those kids may have been far different if they had attended public school and been labeled. And I don't think it would have been for the better. My niece has really done a good job and I wouldn't doubt that she knows what is going on with her kids now that I think about it. In my G-nephews case, I think anyone watching him for a minute or two will know right away there is autism of some type going on. You just can't miss it. And ADHD because he has the "h" big time. I don't know if I have ever seen that kid sit down or his little brother and sister. They are 3 energy bunnies. LOL |
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Post by katiekat on Jan 14, 2008 23:49:57 GMT -5
Sean's teacher seems to think that Aspergers is a definite possibilty as well. She said he shows no emotion happy or sad and that he does not talk about things he has experienced. He just basically gives monologues about how to do something or how something works. Just the facts. She said his speech is almost robotic or programmed. I'm glad she is seeing these things and realizing he needs more than she can give him on her own. The way she was talking it sounds like she wants him to have a one-on-one. She asked the CST person what kind of help Sean would possibly get but she said she didn't know at this point.
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Post by charliegirl on Jan 14, 2008 23:57:24 GMT -5
That teacher is going to be a blessing to you if she is allowed to continue stating what she thinks he needs.
You may want to keep a record of everything she says (which I think you are doing) so if the school comes down on her about being so open about his needs you don't have to worry about missing something she has already noticed. In that case you might not be able to say she said it but you can at least mention it as a possiblity.
I wish every teacher was like her. Life would be so much easier for all kids.
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