M.Y.O.B

[katiekat]

AARRGGHH! Sean is driving me nuts with all his worrying about what everyone else is doing or not doing or needs to do. His therapist had a talk with him about this last week but I guess he was worrying about someone else's business instead of listening. He has always done this but for some reason over the last few weeks it has been so excessive. Instead of doing what he needs to do he is constantly checking up on and telling on others who are not doing what he feels they should be. Or worrying about WHY they are doing something. Including myself and my husband. He cannot eat breakfast because he is too concerned with why my h is in the garage before work. Can't remember to turn off his light and TV because he's too busy telling Joseph that HE left his light on. Corrected me for leaving my clothes in the bathroom. Um excuse me little boy? It is constant. When he says something that is not his concern I usually just say "Is that your business?" and it's dropped but lately that's not working and he will give me some smarta$$ answer.

[misty]

Ahh.....Shannon used to do this too. We called it her "Household patrol". She always made sure everyone was following the rules even when she herself wasn't. I remember taking her to a museum once where there was a children's exhibit. The rule was they could touch everything, but only with 2 fingers. She ran from child to child making sure they were following the rule.

It was a bit infuriating, but mostly never bothered me. I'd say things like "Yeah Daddy left the light on. That wastes electricity, thats why you should make sure the lights are off." and make it in to a lesson. I think eventually she got tired of getting a lesson every time she told someone else what they were doing wrong because eventually she stopped.

Look at it this way: at least you know that he knows the rules.

[katiekat]

Only problem is he doesn't follow the rules himself or accomplish the the things he needs to get done.

[misty]

Yep. Sounds familiar. I don't know what to tell you. Shannon was the same way but she eventually out grew it. She still doesn't follow all the rules at home, but at least she knows them. I still have to remind her multiple times to turn off lights, clean up the bathroom after her shower, etc,. It can be wearing but I just keep harping & try not to let it bother me too much. There are days when it seems I do nothing but nag her & I hate that all she gets is nagging so I try to let some things slide while working on the ones that bother me the worst.

[jj]

All I can say is kids learn by example. If Daddy is leaving the light on then why should Sean not be able to do the same. I think your problem will be solved if you ALL learn to shut off lights. Then he won't have anyone to tattle on. Seriously, what is fair about Sean having to shut off his lights or t.v. when others aren't doing the same??

[katiekat]

The only other person who doesn't turn off the lights would be Joe, who is also a child and has 2 adults here to correct him. We do turn off the lights. I think you combined my post and Misty's.
When it comes to us he just always up in our business and does not do what he should be doing. He will be taking 45 minutes to eat a bowl of cereal because he is so concerned about what one of us is doing.

[jj]

Your right, I did get the two posts confused. My apologies.

[unicorn]

Tiff is quick to point out when someone else does something wrong. But is the first not to do something.