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Post by puzzled on Sept 22, 2007 18:24:01 GMT -5
Although chase has not been ostracized, he does not have a best buddy either at school. His best buddy is colton, my former best friend's son. She and I are to put it mildly, at different places in our lives right now.....long story. But we used to be like sisters, and now don't speak too much. She also moved to a town about 20 minutes away and it is hard to get the boys together as much as we used to.
Chase tends to think of everyone as a 'good friend', he refers to many children in his grade, both girls and boys that way...I am not sure if he just jumps in full force, or is unaware of the subtleties of a good friendship. He seems happy, has kids to play with and sit with at lunch, so I am leaving it alone.
I hope that josh can just cultivate some new friends and when and if the other group comes around, he will just have that many more!
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Post by jill on Sept 23, 2007 11:47:19 GMT -5
I dread the teen years to come.
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Post by unicorn on Sept 24, 2007 20:00:12 GMT -5
I hope that Josh will find some new buddies to hang out with real soon.
I dread the middle school years too.
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Post by bugsmom on Sept 29, 2007 13:20:02 GMT -5
Just wanted to update you all on whats occured in the last week and a half since Josh revealed all of this so me.
Last Tueday, it all came to a head. Josh came home from school a mess. Apparently a couple of the kids were just unmerciful to him and he really had a rough night. He filled me in on what happened during the day and it was a rough one. Just mean kid stuff...hurtful words, alienation, the whole ball of wax. What put me over the edge was that he told me that he had resorted to removing himself from the class by asking to go to the restroom, and proceeded to cry in the bathroom until he got himself together. Well, that just pushed me over the edge, my heart was breaking.
I let him stay home on Wednesday because, quite frankly, he needed a day off and he had a psych appointment anyway. He had a good visit with his psych, but she was quite alarmed by his feelings and felt that he was expressing the first signs of depression. She felt that the Tenex was helping, but he was so unfocased (which I already knew) that we needed to put him back on the Strattera because he told her that he wasn't able to pay attention or focas on just the Tenex.
It talked to his principle Tuesday night and filled her in on what was going on and I got the impression that she was blaming Josh because he was acting immature and the kids were just reacting to him. It wasn't a great conversation, but I know her well, and I knew she would do some more investigating and find out what was really going on. I swear to God, I thought that I was not going to send him back to school and just homeschool him. But I got myself together and moved on. I had a meeting with his teacher and principle on Weds afternoon and after they had done a little researching they had realized what Josh was telling them was the truth. They have assured me that they were going to address these issues right away and were very upset with whats been happening.
The good news is that Thursday and Friday, Josh had some great days at school. His teacher was right on the ball with the teasing and the two kids that had really been on him, got into a lot of trouble on both days. I think Josh finally got a little hope in his heart because he was so happy that something was actually getting done. He's still got a ways to go, but I think with him getting back on the Stratterra, he will be able to handle these situations better and not act out.
One more good note...one of the kids that was within this group I think finally realized that he was really hurting Josh's feelings and reached out to him this week. They began talking again and he actually spent the night last night! Yippee! They had a wonderful night together and Josh was so happy. They got up super early this morning and Kyle took them fishing out on our boat on Lake Erie. So, its a glimmer of hope. I just need Josh to realize that his behavior also effects others and he has to take some of the responsibility.
So, sorry this was so long...I just wanted to let you guys know whats been going on. I know this struggle is not over, but I feel confident that we are moving in the right direction. I have another meeting with all of his teachers together on Monday. They really do seem to care and want to nip this in the bud. Thanks for the shoulder to vent on...you guys are great.
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Post by katiekat on Sept 29, 2007 14:44:59 GMT -5
I am really happy to hear things are getting better for Josh. I hope it continues.
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Post by charliegirl on Sept 29, 2007 14:58:55 GMT -5
I'm so glad they are taking this seriously at school and doing something about it. Hopefully it will not only make Josh's life easier, the bully boys will learn from it and not be so mean to other kids.
You did good Mom! I'm sure Josh is proud of you!
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Post by lostmyshoe on Sept 29, 2007 15:04:59 GMT -5
Bugsmom,
I'm so glad too to hear that things are getting better for your son. That's great that his friend stayed over and went fishing. I hope things will continue to improve at school. Thanks so much for the update. It breaks my heart to hear of anyone being picked on in school, especially after what I just went through last year with my own daughter. Better to nip it in the bud as soon as possible like you did. I hope Josh has a good week this coming week.
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Post by misty on Sept 29, 2007 20:53:04 GMT -5
That is great news, Bugsmom! I'm so happy to hear that things are turning around!
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Post by jj on Sept 30, 2007 0:05:57 GMT -5
Thank goodness things are looking better. This may sound weird coming from a cyber friend but I let out a sigh of relief. And you write as long a post as you want cause we all do.
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Post by lillian on Oct 1, 2007 12:57:59 GMT -5
Wonderful news! I hope they had a blast fishing!!! It sounds like a load of fun.
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