As a parent, do you wonder?

[lcdc1]

why others that deal with your kid and have questions, don't come directly to you? I was at trish's basketball games today in the bleachers, chilling while they warmed up and a mom sat next to me, we made chit chat and I did well with that, thanks concerta!

But, anyway, she was commenting on the first game the girls had and said the coach had talked to her about trish and was concerned about dealing with her and stuff, cause her mind wanders and she does not talk right away and she does not always look at those talking to her, then the mom told the coach that she thought trish would do alright! ARGHHHHHH agian on that one!

Why did the coach not talk to me? Or is that obvious why? I am clueless? HUHM?

Then the Mom is like, well I guess he got his answer! I am like well I did not even know there was a question? Anyone that knows trish, knows she is that way, but she is really coachable, she will get what they want and deliver, she just does not have a converstation about it with them! Anyone that sees her play sports has the same comments, she is so aggressive and athletic, like I know that! Does that mean she is defective in other things? I just do not get it sometimes? Maybe I just read too much into others comments?

[charliegirl]

There isn't much that makes me as angry as professionals who talk about a child to other people. It wasn't the coach's place to tell the other mom about his concerns with Trish. If he is employed by the school, its against the law for him to talk to anyone who isn't specifically required to know.

I also get very upset when there is a concern that I am not asked about. We know our kids better than some other kid's mom who sees them around sometimes.

I think you need to have a chat with him and explain about Trish and mention to him that if has any concerns, he needs to come to you and not someone else.

[lcdc1]

yeah U are right and that is what I am thinking too. As her coach he is not doing it in a school capacity, even though he is a high school teacher. It is volunteer and he is doing it so they have a pool of players to teach technical skills to so they can build the high school program 4 years from now!

He is a nice guy, so I thought! But you would think a high school teacher and high school coach would know not every kid communciates the same way! I do take it personally too because I have that deep seeded thing about if she does have ADD inattentive stuff going on, guess who passed it on to her and guess who does not know how to help her with it?

I am going to approach him next week and rehearse being calm and constructive to benefit Trish! She is athletic and smart, it is just what it is! She needs people to prompt her occasionally and say, hey trish did you get that, can you try that - or like me, they need to say, hey look at me and then talk to her. She steps up to that, if not, she probably does not even know who he is talking to half the time.