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Post by jill on Jun 2, 2008 6:46:34 GMT -5
My husband is the worst at this and the past couple of years I have invited no one for a BBQ for my yard looks like white trash and I am embarrassed. I hate my yard so much it depresses me and I gave up being yelled at and screamed at and nothing gets done. His mother tried only he did not yell at her and get violently angered like me. I always get the do not worry about and his mother told him he could get fined for it.
Well it finally happened on Saturday we got a knock at the door by the police department in his name to appear in court around dinner time. All Sunday he was back there cleaning and organizing and doing what I have been wanting for how long. All what is going to happen is they will tell him what he needs to do and fine us and he will know they will be watching us. He is nervous and it is good for him Mr. Hard Headed and I am sorry I do not feel sorry for him and loving it secretly. Am I evil? Oh and I had to wait to post for he will come up behind me on and off and read over my shoulder a habit that annoys me.
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Post by misty on Jun 2, 2008 9:35:20 GMT -5
You aren't alone, Jill. My husband does the same thing. I try telling him that no matter how neatly you stack up a bunch of tires, its still a bunch of tires & looks like crap but he just doesn't get it. I keep the porches neat myself because he never gets around to it, but the driveway is his. I'm worried that we will eventually get fined too.
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Post by lcdc1 on Jun 2, 2008 10:16:24 GMT -5
I used to do that too, I thought that if I got rid of something, I would then need it! BUT, I have changed my habits and liberated myself. It was one of my missions when I was on my use or lose leave over xmas break, my pysc encouraged me to do it and once I got rolling, it was a very good thing. I got so organized at that time too and there are things and systems I implemented to help it not happen again. I am glad your hubby is seeing it is just not you nagging about it, hope your yard looks good after. You should have taken a before and after picture! ;D
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Post by bugsmom on Jun 2, 2008 13:11:42 GMT -5
Your not evil, Jill. Your just fed up. I think I would be secretly doing the happy dance too! I know exactly how you feel. My mother has been a pack-rat my whole life. It was complete tourture for my brother, sister, and I. We could never have friends over because we were so embarassed. I still resent my mom for that. When we were teenagers, my sister and I tried our best to clear some of the junk away, but my mom would go ballestic. It was horrible. My poor dad still has to put up with it, but she's gotten a little better. Whenever my mom and dad go on a long trip my sister and I go over and clean it all out. When she comes home, she's thankful. I think its just too over-welming for her. What is so funny is that my sister and I are complete neat freaks. I know its because of the way we grew up. I drive my husband and Josh crazy. If I see a glass on an end table for more than 15 mins, I go nuts. So, I guess it can go both ways.
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Post by jj on Jun 2, 2008 22:49:44 GMT -5
I remember you mentioning this before. Jill, I'd be secretly smiling too. He sure dug himself into this one. In my house, the public spaces inside and out have to be neat. Period. But the sister that lives with me is the worst packrat I have ever known. (I know you all know this as I've complained enough about her) But her desk, which is in my living room is such an eye-sore I honestly can't hardly bare being in that room. When she thinks it is neat, I think it still looks like a tornado hit it. I mean how high can you stack papers? Until you need a step ladder to reach the top? Actually, we have neighbors that are horrible. I did file a complaint against them because it honestly looked like they were running a junk yard business. (The city told me they had dozens of complaints about them.) They too were forced to clean it up but within a month it was back to the same junk yard. The city must of came down on them again so then up goes this white tent like thing to cover their junk but within another month the junk appeared all around the tent. Sometimes I'd just shake my head in disgust when amongst the junk yard there they all would be outside, just sitting on their lazy butts oblivious to how their place looked. Sheesh. I hope for your sake this is a wakeup call for your hubby and he keeps things neat from now on.
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Post by charliegirl on Jun 3, 2008 1:04:18 GMT -5
I'd be dancing if I were you. I'd also be pointing out that he is going to get another fine every time things started getting shabby. You don't have to live that way. You work hard to have a nice home but how can anyone tell its nice if it looks like you don't care about the outside? You deserve better and he should care about it himself.
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Post by bryanh30 on Jun 3, 2008 3:31:37 GMT -5
Sometimes that is what it takes. A shame to have things go so far, but at least it is a positive ;-)
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Post by katiekat on Jun 3, 2008 8:38:09 GMT -5
I guess if that is what it took to get him to clean it up then it could turn out to be a good thing. Bugs, I lived the same way as a kid. My mom was a total pack rat and never got rid of anything. I felt the same way-I never invited friends to my house because it was embarrassing. My sister, brother and I are all total neat freaks, bordering on OCD and I think that's why.
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Post by lillian on Jun 3, 2008 23:36:23 GMT -5
My husband is this way, and it drives me nuts. The outside stays orderly, but we can't use our garage because it's packed with his junk. When I began to threaten to throw the boxes away that he was stacking all over the house, he rented a storage unit, so we now pay to store all the junk he has that won't fit into the garage!!! It's insane!
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Post by John on Jun 4, 2008 8:37:10 GMT -5
What Is Hoarding? Obsessive Accumulation of 'Stuff' By Ashley Walters Ingvoldstad, MD, About.com Updated: April 17, 2008 About.com Health's Disease and Condition content is reviewed by Steven Gans, MD See More About:cluttercompulsive collectingdefinition of hoardingneurobiology of hoardingtreatment of hoarding Obsessive Compulsive Do you know someone who never seems to throw anything away? He or she may be a hoarder. Hoarding is a subtype of OCD, although recent studies GoTo: www.about.com type in Hoarding I to have a mild form of this ''Oh So Fun'' disorder. Some things I collect are a certain type of twisty ties (they have to be of a particular type of bendable plastic), newspaper articles ( but fortunately not stacks of newspapers) and other misalanious small stuff.
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