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Post by katiekat on Oct 12, 2008 21:21:14 GMT -5
I am happy to hear that your meeting went well. They are always surprised when you mention something they don't think you should know LOL. I really hope that from this point they can figure out how to best help him. As for the fighting I too think frustration may have something to do with it. He is probably already so stressed out from school. Is he still doing the anger management?
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Post by mellissa on Oct 12, 2008 22:05:12 GMT -5
He goes back on the 24 of this month and he is not happy about that either.Here is my concern--if he gets into a fight in school they send the straight to juvenile detention no questions asked.He says these kids are picking on him but if I go to the school then he gets picked on and called a snitch. So do I just try to let him handle this alone or do I try to help him with this situation.LOL ALL OPINIONS TAKEN GRACIOUSLY LOVE YA GUYS AND GOD BLESS
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Post by misty on Oct 12, 2008 22:23:29 GMT -5
Maybe you could call the guidance counsellor & explain the situation & enlist his (or her) help. They could keep an eye out & would have the authority to step in if things do get out of hand. At the very least you'd have a set of eyes watching at the school & the other kids wouldn't need to know you called. I'm glad things went well at the meeting.
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Post by jj on Oct 13, 2008 0:56:50 GMT -5
I can't help but think the same thing everyone kind of mentioned. It is so tough for a kid that age if kids are picking on him. I do think what Misty said is important - to talk to the counsellor. I should think the counsellor should have some good ideas to help your son.
And I'm so happy you were armed with the needed info for that meeting. Honestly, once he gets used to getting the school help he needs, I bet things get better.
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Post by charliegirl on Oct 13, 2008 9:24:28 GMT -5
I would call the school also and tell them of your concerns. We talk to the principal so much she probably hates to hear from us but they have to know what is going on and if the child won't tell them, they don't know.
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Post by anon4now on Oct 13, 2008 11:49:37 GMT -5
My son went through some bully-ing last school year. My mom is in the school system and she felt very strongly that this needed lots of attention. From what I understand, a number of states (mine included) have anti-bullying laws enforced. I would google your state to see if yours does. Just like you went in armed with IDEA, go in armed with the anti-bullying laws. It would also be a great oppurtunity for you to show your children the laws. Show them how they are protected, and also show them what will happen if the tables are ever turned.
Anon
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Post by mellissa on Oct 28, 2008 13:54:40 GMT -5
Just an update on my son We are still fighting the school to get an IEP in place. The doctors are now trying a change in meds as they noticed an increase in ADHD behavior as well as an increase in his Bipolar and ODD behavior. I hope we can hang on until they can help us with this. He is still failing school and getting into trouble for class tardies and disrespect. I am at my wit's end here. ANY ADVICE? With all of this going on he was diagnosed with severe asthma last week and is now having blackout spells. He loves to BMX race and had a blackout spell mid jump. Thank goodness my husband is a first responder with our local fire department. I want to help him so bad but I don't know how at this point. Thanks guys for just listening and for all he helpful advice this is the only time I have to vent Love you guys ;D ;D
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Post by charliegirl on Oct 28, 2008 17:27:18 GMT -5
Melissa,
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Post by jj on Oct 28, 2008 18:13:21 GMT -5
Oh schools can be so frustrating. He is DX'd and is on medication, is having troubles in school. What more proof do they need that he needs help? Sheesh! And by the way, you are always welcomed to vent. It does help. What seems to be the reason they are holding back on a IEP? One thing you may want to look into is finding an advocate. They know all the in's and out's of the law. You may even want to mention you are thinking of getting an advocate for your son and it may make them sit up and listen. This may help, there is a little box on the right side that you can search for an advocate in your state. www.copaa.net
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Post by mellissa on Nov 6, 2008 22:13:42 GMT -5
Latest update---- I pulled James out of school today. I will start homeschool on Monday. Hopefully I can get all the money together over the weekend. I am so aggravated with this school and it would appear that I am not the only parent that feels that way. Also I am checking into getting a support group started for parents of ADHD, LD ODD Bipolar and any other mental disability. As hard as it is on these kids it is also hard on these parents and we need to vent as well. I hope God gives me the strength to teach my son and get him back on the educational level he needs to be. He is really excited about it. It is good to see him get excited for a change he has been so stressed about school. Stay tuned guys LOL I will let you know if i survive this LOL ;D
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