|
|
Post by John on Dec 11, 2008 9:36:10 GMT -5
Just started this book ''ADD-Friendly Ways to organize Your Life'', Judith Kolberg & Kathleen Nadeau, 2004.
I was reminded Again how important it is to be/stay organized. Sometimes you 'can't see the table for the papers' and end up in a vicious cycle of frustration, dejection and expectation.
Somethings that caught my eye are:
Divide the dreadful in the micro-moment.
This means if you hate going through bills, set a timer for ten minutes or just do the utilities. Any thing that breaks into very small pieces for you.
Heading ''EAST''
ADDrs are famous for trying to do Everything At the Same Time {EAST}. To change this self defeating habit remember that 'EAST is the least' successful. It's better if you Choose just One and get it done.
Always Subtract before you Add.
Addition adds unnecessary stress to your live. Before you add more books, clothes, or commitments to your life, subtract as much or more before.
Give up on getting it Right.
This is one I struggle with all the time. Instead of being obsessed with unattainable perfectionism , a better way is Doing Your Best. There is no perfect outcome, only the best effort.
|
|
|
|
Post by misty on Dec 11, 2008 9:49:12 GMT -5
Give up on getting it Right. This is one I struggle with all the time. Instead of being obsessed with unattainable perfectionism , a better way is Doing Your Best. There is no perfect outcome, only the best effort. And how do you teach someone that, John? Shannon struggles with this too. She's always redoing things because they just aren't "perfect". As a result, her room is never finished being cleaned, essays she writes take forever, etc., etc. It drives me bats! |
|
|
|
Post by puzzled on Dec 11, 2008 11:43:51 GMT -5
I have the perfectionist thing down pretty good too....I HAVE to try for that A in all my classes in college...and the two B's I have gotten in the last two math classes drive me NUTS. Even though at this level, I will never need this math again....and I only need a C to move on in my degree....that A is ultra important to me.
|
|
|
|
Post by lcdc1 on Dec 12, 2008 0:02:11 GMT -5
Hey I read that book last month! It is a good one and very helpful and I did get some ideas out of there that I use now, like the stubby list idea! The stubby has really been helping me and I make one every morning. I also joined the Neat and Simple Cafe forum that a professional coach with ADD runs and she has given me some ideas too and is a pretty good contact, she sent me 3 free ebooks that I have used some lists out of to help me!
Today I was pretty constructive in getting a lot done, I have been in high gear knowing the surgery is coming up tuesday, so all those 5 weeks of projects at a leisurly pace, just got crammed in 1.5 weeks!
I have given away 2 huge moving boxes of stuff, shredded documents for a couple hours,, hauled away like a truck load and more to the dump and life is feeling more in control today. I have to finish paperwork tommorow and then the kitchen organizing and the garage and then clean this weekend real well! Yeah my neck and upper body is killing me at the moment, but oh well!
|
|
|
|
Post by jfla on Dec 12, 2008 8:43:11 GMT -5
Impressive accomplishments!
|
|
|
|
Post by John on Dec 12, 2008 9:53:56 GMT -5
[/quote] Misty
And how do you teach someone that, John? Shannon struggles with this too. She's always redoing things because they just aren't "perfect". It drives me bats! [/quote]
Dawn, it may drive you bats but guess what, it drives Shannon Bats Squared.
Somehow, Shannon needs to understand that a clean room:
1. May happen but then guess what, it only lasts for a limited time.
2. Needs to be viewed as a journey more then a destination, meaning it is an ongoing process. Maybe picking just an area of her room to keep organized this time might be more realistic.
Another interesting concept is in changing our thinking from Task Orientation to Time Orientation. What this means is to say to Self: "Yes I would like to complete this project perfectly because I fell I need to, but I know that I don't want to spend six hours writing this paper, cleaning my room or learning how to yodel, so I will decide to change my demands on myself from a (perfect) Task to a certain Time Limit. So I'm giving myself two hours to Do The Best I Can on this project.
There is a lot more information in the book that I could give. It's a very good book that I will try to implement myself.
|
|
|
|
Post by misty on Dec 12, 2008 10:32:18 GMT -5
What this means is to say to Self:............I don't want to spend six hours ........... learning how to yodel If she yodels for 6 hours, I'm moving out!  |
|
|
|
Post by jj on Dec 12, 2008 13:40:42 GMT -5
Always Subtract before you Add. Addition adds unnecessary stress to your live. Before you add more books, clothes, or commitments to your life, subtract as much or more before. I try to use this one and it helps. I started trying to stick by it a year or so ago. What doesn't help is a sister that buys more total junk then anyone I know and buys things that she already has 50 off. I imagine it is that darn OOSOOM thing for her. |
|
|
|
Post by John on Dec 12, 2008 15:01:20 GMT -5
What doesn't help is a sister that buys more total junk then anyone I know and buys things that she already has 50 off. Oh gosh, JJ this one is so simple. Just staple them to the wall and then she can see them~  |
|
