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Post by katiekat on Feb 1, 2009 1:25:36 GMT -5
I can't understand why Sean cannot learn from his mistakes. I also can't get why he just won't follow simple directions. I have mentioned before how I cannot let him outside because he has done some things which are dangerous to his safety. I have not allowed him to go out for months. This past Friday was the first day we had snow and he really wanted to go out. We went over the rules and I decided to give him a chance and told him he could play in the backyard, where I have a good view of him. He does stay back there but after a while the little boy next door comes out and Sean asks me if they can play between the 2 houses. I say yes since I can see him there also. I check on him frequently. Then his mother comes to pick him up. I say he's right on the side of the house and she says she did not see him. So I go out and the 2 of us are up and down the street yelling for him. Here he comes 5 minutes later-he had been in our next door neighbors house! I was furious. Of course "he forgot" that he wasnt allowed to just go in someone's house without permission. I told him that once again we are back at square one where I can't trust him and he can't go outside.
I feel bad but I just can't risk it. I just don't get why it's not sinking in.
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Post by jj on Feb 1, 2009 12:13:34 GMT -5
I'm sorry KK. It may take Sean a very long time to mature enough that the light bulb starts going off that he shouldn't do something he was told not to. I think Charliegirls quote in her profile pretty much says it all. He probably had very good intentions of following the rules but then he saw something shiny, aka a fun little boy to play with and all the rules just went out the window.
I remember back to when I was a kid and the countless times I just "lost track of time" even failing to notice it was pitch dark out side and I should have been home hours ago.
All you can do is just know that he will get distracted by that "something shiny" and there is no getting around it, you will have to be right out there with him so he can play outside, unfortunately. Bottom line is, he needs to be able to go outside to play and somehow you or your husband will just have to slot that time to watch him every minute.
I do think in time he will start to learn to "remember the rules" as he matures. I really do.
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Post by lisacap on Feb 1, 2009 15:06:25 GMT -5
KK it is going to be forever before he learns that....that was and still is one of the hardest things I deal with, with C....if I give him an inch he takes a yard, but sometimes when I look directly at him, I realize he doesn't even realize what he has done wrong. When C was that age, I bought him a alarm watch, every 15 mins it went off, and he had to come to the front door and tell me where he was, what he was doing, who he was playing with...if the alarm went off and he didn't come, he would then lose his outdoor privalege for the rest of that day...it took a while of losing out door time, but by summer he got it. I was then able to up his time to every 20 mins, or 30 mins. Till he started getting that if I don't check in, I AM IN....
Now in Sean's defense, why didn't the parent ask him, Sean does Mom know you came here, giving him the oppurtunity to say No, I need to call her, or her to say to him, let's call Mom and make sure it is ok for you to play indoors, he would of still broken the rules of leaving the yard, but at least the panic wouldn't of set in...I don't know about most of you, but the first thing I say to any kid who walks in my house with one of my kids, is Does your mother know your here, if not you need to call her and make sure it is ok....
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