14 & the kid can still throw a fit!

[misty]

Who says kids outgrow temper tantrums? Shannon asked me earlier if we could watch a pay per view movie & I said yes, if Bill agreed. Well, Bill said yes at first but then remembered that wrestling is on tonight & changed his mind. He did promise we'd watch it tomorrow night though. Shannon thought this was completely unfair. normally, maybe it would have been, but she has to remember that his thought processes aren't what they used to be & it sometimes takes him awhile to think what he wanted to do. She knows that of course, but she got it in her head that she had to watch that movie (the kicker was, she watched that movie already last week) so every 10 minutes she was down here alternating between begging, crying, & screaming. This went on for over an hour...ARGH. I was ready to tear my hair out. Finally she settled down, after she realized she wasn't going to change our minds. Actually, Bill's mind. I let him handle this one.....he needs to assert his parental rights. And she needs to get used to listening to him again. At almost 15 years old, I thought tantrums would be in the past....guess I was wrong.

[bugsmom]

Misty...I feel for you...and totally get it. Once something gets in Josh's head, there is no changing the rules. It drives me nuts! Everything is either black or white, with no in between. We will have these little rants every once in awhile, and what you and Bill did was absolutely correct. I'm glad you stood your ground. I really believe that when the next instance comes around, Shannon will remember what YOU and BILL decided is what will be. I think these situations are good for them to go thru. They have to learn that sometimes things will change...which of course is hard for them.

Sorry you had to go through it, but she survived and will be fine. You on the other hand, probably need a glass of wine. Hang in there!

[misty]

Thanks bugsmom. I'm sorry you have to go through it too, but I'm also glad I'm not the only one. You know, I was wondering while she was ranting, whether she will be acting this way when she has a boss & he/she changes his/her mind about something Shannon was told to do. I hope not.

[jj]

Teens always think it is all about them and I've seen many a teen throw fits like that. Oh, geeze, I think I was one of them.ROTFL

I'm glad you and Bill stuck to your guns. I mean.. hey, it happens...we all forget things and that is life. Besides, it is your money paying for those movies so you can watch them when ever you want.

Still, I'm sorry you had to hear her fit throwing for such a long time.

[charliegirl]

Jonathan doesn't throw temper tantrums. He never really did. He just sulks and whines and nags in your face until you are ready to scream.

[anon4now]

Have you ever seen "Dan in Real Life" ? That is such a good movie. There's a part when the teenage daughter doesn't want to leave her new boyfriend for the holidays and she starts yelling at her dad saying "You're a murderer of love!" I tell my husband he'll be a murderer of love when our daughter becomes a teenager. He's fine with that title.

[jill]

So what you are saying is it does not really get any better.

[jj]

Poor Jill,
We have dashed her hopes (that she was probably hanging on to for dear life) that her daughter will grow out of the fit thing.
From what I've seen of the teens I have in my life they seem to start growing out of that "super selfish, it's all about me and my wants" stage at around 15ish.

[puzzled]

Of my four children, Jonna threw fits when she was little, and she seriously still does...Chelsea never threw one temper tantrum, she was always as pleasantly tempered as she is now...Jake has always been a calm introspective soul, watching quietly, I can't remember him throwing any temper tantrums, he has always rolled with the punches...Chase has always had a temper, and I don't think he threw fits when he was a toddler, but he sure can toss a doozy now.

I do know that Chase throws less fits than Jonna did, probably because he is getting treatment for his ADHD and Jonna never was diagnosed till she was an adult and does not take her meds now.

[jill]

Mar 8, 2009 0:16:32 GMT -5 jj said:

Poor Jill,
We have dashed her hopes (that she was probably hanging on to for dear life) that her daughter will grow out of the fit thing.
From what I've seen of the teens I have in my life they seem to start growing out of that "super selfish, it's all about me and my wants" stage at around 15ish.

* ha ha I just will wait and see and for tantrums it grows into adulthood too my husband can still throw them. I watched him one day and he looked like our daughter only a grown man. Yep it was shocking and horrifying when I realized the situation.