Nette's conference yesterday

[jill]

I was told she is doing good in school and that she can do better in some areas if she applied herself more, writing still a struggle. The teacher also shared with me concern for Annette in her peer relations especially that middle school is next year that she can see the kids not being nice to her not understanding her. She told me she nips stuff immediately but can see it and I did share with her about the bullies in the neighborhood. I want to cry and had difficulty sleeping for my girl is so sweet and loving I do not want school to be a nightmare for her.

I spoke to the school Social Worker afterward for she does weekly social groups with my girl and other kids and when my girl has an issue she loves going to her. I was given a number for free counseling in our school district to help address personal stuff and the socialization stuff. Annette is now on their wait list and I have to wait 1-2 weeks for a call when she can start. The other problem we face is she is very immature for her age and her after school childcare does not help when she is the only 10 year old there with 4-5 year olds. Will my anxiety ever relax I am terrified for my girl last night I just held her while we snuggled and kept her close to me and my heart as it ached inside.

[anon4now]

Sounds like her teacher is very kind. That's great! I would try to take one day at a time and try not to get too anxious over the future. Keep your heart open and you'll find a solution.

Hopefully the kids will start to mature a little. You might find a few kind hearts out there that will even out the nasty little buggers.

I know in our school we had a group of kids with down syndrome and other severe mental disorders and our school promoted support for them. So we would give them high fives in the hall way and offer help during free study etc. Not everyone did it, but there was a larger group that did.

Make sure you read about your anti-bullying policy and be sure to let the authorities know you mean business. And maybe look up unique ways to make children aware and present your ideas to the school.

It reminds me of a class in one of our school systems here. It was a class the taught public speaking. It prepared them for interviews, how to shake hands, what your body language is telling other people, and how to handle stressful situations. I wonder if you could suggest a class about treating others kindly, and how to be a bigger person then your 'friends' etc. There has to be a program like that. I think I read something in a book about studies done on kids who take a course like that.

Just thinking aloud here.

A4N

[jj]

Sounds like you had a pretty good meeting.

And Anon, I think every school should be required to have a course on treating others with kindness every year.

[charliegirl]

I like the idea of a course to teach kindness also.

Jill to you and Annette

[jill]

My husband is a custodian in our school district and got chummy with the teachers, CSE people (same building), and the Boys and girls club anyways he pulled strings and our girl will be leaving her after school childcare for the boys and girls club in the middle school. She will be with kids a year older than her and the workers want to meet her and adore her father starting after next week. The Director and he spoke about helping her to bridge friendships and work with her. Nette is terrified so I am going to get out of work early to take her to meet everyone. The best part she would be going to work with daddy and he will be in the building in case she needs him and get this the cost is FREE. I will be saving $66 per week.