History and still working on...

[unicorn]

Not sure if anyone remembers concerns I have had about neighbors girl and that I have known for 2 years that she had ADHD. Well she was recently diagnosed with ADHD. I am so relieved. I think the mothe is still in denial. I have tried to be supportive and have tried to get her on here to see what I hav gone through with Tiff. Tiff babysits everyday and she knows what to do during meltdowns. And Tiff rubs the girls head when she puts her in bed and has sat next to her until she has fallen asleep. Like I used to do to Tiff and how many of you did too.

I worry about about the child since the mother is now waiting to see a specialist before going ahead with meds that the pedetrician prescribed. This child needs help. She is constantly screamed at and misunderstood. The other night the child woke up at midnight and had the worst meltdown for 2 hours while the mother screamed and used foul language. I almost took my key and went over.

So how do I help more? When the child does something, I say remember when Tiff used to do this or that. I have made suggestions and told her about all of you.

What would you do? I decided during the Friday meltdown when we were there, to try to model by example. That is why I scooped her up and just held her and rubbed her and distracted her from the original cause of meltdown.

[misty]

I don't know, Uni...seems like you are doing all that you can. I guess I would just keep on doing what you are. Keep being there for both mother & child & give them bits of info or advice when you can do it without feeling like you're pushing it. I want to say that I think its wonderful how sweet & helpful Tiff is with the little one. You are raising quite a fantastic young lady!

[charliegirl]

I just saw this or I'd have replied sooner.

I agree that it sounds like the mother is in denial. Other than what you are already doing, could you suggest she at least try your methods until she has the specialist report?

Remind her it can't hurt to try and she can tell the specialist whether or not it worked. If it works then the little girl will be a bit better off until she can get meds and hopefully some counseling.

You and Tiff are doing your best to help her. Tell Tiff how proud we are of her and know we are proud of you for reaching out like that.

[jill]

Eventually the mom will get it and we can admit it is harder more frustrating at times.