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Post by charliegirl on Jan 6, 2007 21:51:09 GMT -5
This is fro a newsletter I can share:
The ADHD Parent's Guide: Questions for the School
by Dr. Douglas Cowan
Here is something that you might want to keep if you
are thinking about changing your child's school next
fall or if you are planning to have your child tested
by the school in the near future. Let me say this, if
you are planning to have your child tested by your
district, do not put off doing the paperwork. Sign
them up today! Typically districts have 10 weeks in
which to do assessments, but the clock doesn't start
until you fill out the paperwork. This can be a long
process, and if you delay at doing the paperwork you
may not be able to get the assessment done until
next year!
Parents, here are some good questions that you
might ask the school to ensure optimal management
of your child with ADHD.
1) Know the difference between big things and little
things.
2) Know the difference between incompetence and
rebelliousness. If you child does something out of
incompetence, then take the time to teach your child
how to do it right. If your child acts out of rebellion
toward your authority as a parent, then this behavior
needs to be disciplined or punished, but cannot be
tolerated or accepted.
3) The word "discipline" means "to teach, to shape,
to mold, or to perfect." Remember this.
4) Be firm, be consistent, and build a personal
relationship with your child.
5) Be careful not to become overly performance
oriented with your children. They are more than just
homework, reports, and chores. There is a real
person there who has hopes, dreams, fears, likes and
dislikes. Get to personally know your child.
6) Quality time is no substitute for quantity time. The
average father in America spends only 47 seconds a
day in conversation with his children. But I am sure
that it is quality time.
7) Be a positive person, and a positive role model for
your child. The best predictor of how your child will
be when he is 30-40 years old is how YOU are as
a person today. Be a positive influence on your child
socially, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
8) Make the effort to catch your child doing
something right every day.
9) Teach your child how to be successful. First, take
the time to figure out in your own life what it means
to be "successful." Is it just having more money or
stuff? Or is there more to your life than that?
10) Teach your child self-control and respect for
others.
The ADHD Parent's Guide: Questions for the School
by Dr. Douglas Cowan
Here is something that you might want to keep if you
are thinking about changing your child's school next
fall or if you are planning to have your child tested
by the school in the near future. Let me say this, if
you are planning to have your child tested by your
district, do not put off doing the paperwork. Sign
them up today! Typically districts have 10 weeks in
which to do assessments, but the clock doesn't start
until you fill out the paperwork. This can be a long
process, and if you delay at doing the paperwork you
may not be able to get the assessment done until
next year!
Parents, here are some good questions that you
might ask the school to ensure optimal management
of your child with ADHD.
1) Know the difference between big things and little
things.
2) Know the difference between incompetence and
rebelliousness. If you child does something out of
incompetence, then take the time to teach your child
how to do it right. If your child acts out of rebellion
toward your authority as a parent, then this behavior
needs to be disciplined or punished, but cannot be
tolerated or accepted.
3) The word "discipline" means "to teach, to shape,
to mold, or to perfect." Remember this.
4) Be firm, be consistent, and build a personal
relationship with your child.
5) Be careful not to become overly performance
oriented with your children. They are more than just
homework, reports, and chores. There is a real
person there who has hopes, dreams, fears, likes and
dislikes. Get to personally know your child.
6) Quality time is no substitute for quantity time. The
average father in America spends only 47 seconds a
day in conversation with his children. But I am sure
that it is quality time.
7) Be a positive person, and a positive role model for
your child. The best predictor of how your child will
be when he is 30-40 years old is how YOU are as
a person today. Be a positive influence on your child
socially, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
8) Make the effort to catch your child doing
something right every day.
9) Teach your child how to be successful. First, take
the time to figure out in your own life what it means
to be "successful." Is it just having more money or
stuff? Or is there more to your life than that?
10) Teach your child self-control and respect for
others.
