Post by misty on Jan 5, 2007 23:53:10 GMT -5
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10 Things Adults with ADD Would Like Their Partners To Know
From Eileen Bailey,
Your Guide to Attention Deficit Disorder.
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The following list has been compiled from a number of sources, including: a friend with ADD (whose husband carries a similar list in his wallet as a reminder), her adult support group, interviews from a number of Addults, and a few of the recent questionnaires received.
1) I am a person, I have feelings, the capacity to give and receive love, and I yearn for compassion, understanding and caring in my life, just as you do. My thinking process and my learning style may be different, but that does not change my emotional needs.
2) Remember to find joy in my uniqueness.
3) Never assume that a careless word was intentional until you talk it over with me.
4) Take the time to learn as much as you can about ADD. Learning about it validates me.
5) Acknowledge my positive attributes and strengths and don't dwell on my faults and shortcomings.
6)I have ADD, I cannot get over it or get rid of it.
7) I do not use ADD as an excuse.
8) ADD can cause me to be distracted. If you have something important to discuss, please save it for a time when distractions are at a minimum. Sit down with me, turn off the TV, make sure the kids are in bed.
9) Affirm that I am loveable and you love me in spite of my faults.
10) Because I have ADD, don't conclude that all relationship problems are my fault. Acknowledge your responsibilities for relationship difficulties and take corrective action, treating me like an equal partner shows you respect me as a person.
10 Things Adults with ADD Would Like Their Partners To Know
From Eileen Bailey,
Your Guide to Attention Deficit Disorder.
Stay up to date!
The following list has been compiled from a number of sources, including: a friend with ADD (whose husband carries a similar list in his wallet as a reminder), her adult support group, interviews from a number of Addults, and a few of the recent questionnaires received.
1) I am a person, I have feelings, the capacity to give and receive love, and I yearn for compassion, understanding and caring in my life, just as you do. My thinking process and my learning style may be different, but that does not change my emotional needs.
2) Remember to find joy in my uniqueness.
3) Never assume that a careless word was intentional until you talk it over with me.
4) Take the time to learn as much as you can about ADD. Learning about it validates me.
5) Acknowledge my positive attributes and strengths and don't dwell on my faults and shortcomings.
6)I have ADD, I cannot get over it or get rid of it.
7) I do not use ADD as an excuse.
8) ADD can cause me to be distracted. If you have something important to discuss, please save it for a time when distractions are at a minimum. Sit down with me, turn off the TV, make sure the kids are in bed.
9) Affirm that I am loveable and you love me in spite of my faults.
10) Because I have ADD, don't conclude that all relationship problems are my fault. Acknowledge your responsibilities for relationship difficulties and take corrective action, treating me like an equal partner shows you respect me as a person.
