High School Orientation

[charliegirl]

I agree with Lillian. Just the thought of going from her familiar little world to a larger school and moving into the more difficult world of high school is scary. I also think that getting it all in order is just as frustrating and confusing for her as it is for you. Combining it all, she probably just wishes she could crawl away somewhere and come out when its all taken care of and her math LD has disappeared.

[lcdc1]

yeah you all are right on that, it has to be tough for her in that respect! I try to remember how different she is from me as a kid - I really did not care what people thought, I don't even think that was a concept at all for me?

I think she does realize the struggle this is for her inside because occasionally she slips with things like I am really working hard and I cant get this, why?

I want her to work with a therapist and at the right times I remind her that she has choices in this all and can reach out for help outside of school anytime she wants with a coach/pysc person. I did tell her though that this has to be her choice to make it work!

She is afraid, frustrated and yeah mad! I have to be in constant check to just take some of it from her and choose my battles,, she told her boyfriend I hate her and shcool is so hard and she is depressed, I told her I could never hate her, I told her I could pummel her (I don't hit my kids ever) and that she made me insane at times, but I could never not love her!

PATIENCE, I feel I need to borrow everyones PATIENCE, so thanks for the insight, it is right on.

She freaked out again in math today and made me come get her, she had a real severe headache. I snuck some input in there for her about headache triggers and knowing what they are and she needs to think about that. I can see the stress and anxiety this ADD and LD are adding to her normal teenage issues and it does hurt me to think about it for her. It is frustrating because if she would just deal a little with accepting help, I have seen it work NOW on her current IEP! It works, she can be successful!

I will continue to discuss with my physc and all and see what ideas he has beyond the initial education meeting with her - I am wondering if I need to do family counseling to start, so she can get comfortable with the idea and maybe go on her own with the right person, I am just worn out with gettting in touch with my own issues and fighting my own stuff all the time that I have to find the energy to get her through this, that is more important I think.

Thanks