Do you have good friends that you trust

[lcdc1]

to tell you when you are being too ADHD or having too much anxiety?

I am realizing that maybe I do need to trust more people in my life without getting offended or brushing them off at times. Sometimes they do tell me if I am hyper or getting irritable too easily and in hind sight I now realize that it is not to point out my flaws or push my buttons!

I think as an adult ADHD'er I have some trust issues or some PTSD type stuff with critiscm from school days and a parent that was a bit well over the top and controlling!

I think the light bulb in working with this pysc is started to go on here and there to stop being so defensive and to try to stop taking things so personally all the time.

It is like he told me that I get mad and stuff because I feel like some expectation is not being met and maybe I need to evaluate where some of these faulty thought processes come from?

A flip side to this or maybe a parallel? I also have to learn that compliments and good things people point out are real and not go right to the negative place of thinking I do not deserve to be a good person and to be happy!

But, I must say most of my friends on this and another site that know me too well, are not afraid to be strait up about it and I appreciate that NOW!

[charliegirl]

I have good friends I can share with and talk to but most of them are too afraid of hurting my feelings to tell me when I'm being obnoxious and acting too ADHD. If there is something specific I am working on and I ask them to, they will point that one trait out to me when it rears its ugly head. Every little bit helps.

[lcdc1]

you know, I guess I do have more good people in my life than I realize, because they are willing to do this for me. If some were not willing last august to talk to me and tell me that I was acting out of character, I would not have found this current pysc to work with, he is helping me greatly and I was at my wits end.

I think in my life I was so used to be independent, that I forgot I needed a checks and balance system in my life!

[anon4now]

This is a sad memory for me, but in highschool I had a close friend that was taking ADHD meds. I didn't even know for the first 3 years. Our senior year she was pretty much living on her own and there was a week she couldn't afford her meds. Thats when she told me. She asked that I keep an eye on her and try to keep her focused in class.

It's sad for me b/c the day of our graduation I went to congratulate her and she disappeared. I never knew what happened to her and I think of her all the time. I found her last year on MySpace and wrote her a letter. She deleted it. I considered her my best friend and I miss her a lot. And sometimes I feel like she could really help me right now understand what is happening with my son, but she's made up her mind. Ah well. That was more info then you wanted, but I figured I would tell you, there are people out there that will help you through the tough times too.

Anon

[lcdc1]

Wow, that is a sad situation back in High School. I hope she is alright too. She probably has bad memories from those days is why she deleted your message!

I know some folks that dealt with ADHD and other stuff in school, have some bad memories that stick with them and hurt to think about. Some develop PTSD I guess?