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Post by anon4now on May 31, 2008 21:34:48 GMT -5
Well, we had some break down activity going on today. Long story short, he woke the baby up at 6:00AM knowing it would wake me. Sort of passive-agressive. My DH felt it was not acceptable and gave him a lecture. Which got DS all worked up. Then DH put in place a consequence for over-reacting, which was a letter of apology to mom. Well, he was crying on his way to the table to write, so I told him to go to the bathroom to wash his face off and cool down. I didn't want something so stupid to last forever. While he was in there he bit his arm! It didn't bleed or anything, but he bit it hard four times. Then he came out uncontrollably crying. He finally admited to biting himself.
Just something to bring up to he psych. Sigh.
Anon
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Post by katiekat on May 31, 2008 21:55:14 GMT -5
Sean does things like this also. He has never bit himself but he punches himself in the head and pulls his hair or bangs his head on the table. It seems he does it when he becomes so frustrated he just doesn't know what else to do. When it gets to this point(it's usually over homework) I just stop what we're doing and take a break.
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Post by anon4now on Jun 1, 2008 7:33:29 GMT -5
Yep, he's done hitting himself and banging his head etc. Usually it's after the fact and he's talking to himself. My DH think's he's trying to be dramatic and trying to take our attention off the "problem at hand" I think it's a cry for help. grrrr. I can't think about it any more. It just makes me so mad.
Anon
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Post by jill on Jun 1, 2008 8:25:24 GMT -5
Talk to the psychologist or psychiatrist for to me it can be a number of things. I have been out of the mental health field over 6 years now so I am rusty. My number one guess is attention seeking maybe self punishment.
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Post by bugsmom on Jun 1, 2008 10:28:23 GMT -5
Yep, he's done hitting himself and banging his head etc. Usually it's after the fact and he's talking to himself. My DH think's he's trying to be dramatic and trying to take our attention off the "problem at hand" I think it's a cry for help. grrrr. I can't think about it any more. It just makes me so mad. Anon Anon...your right. Your son IS crying out for help. I don't want to sound negitive, but your husband is WRONG. It sounds to me that your little guy is very frustrated and does not have the self-skills to regulate his feelings. He's not being dramatic, he's acting like a very frustrated child that feels like he's always in trouble for something. It's my understand that when a child/adult is hurting themselves its because they want the feeling that they are "feeling" to go away. I know this my sound like psycho-babble to your husband, but I believe it. My son's magic number was age 9. It was a horrible year and although he didn't hurt himself, the meltdowns were a nightmare. He wasn't doing it for attention, he was totally frustrated himself and didn't know how to handle his emotions. I'll never forget him looking at me and saying..."Mom, am I always going to feel this way?" It about killed me. Talk to your psych about what happened. I think that you will find that weekly therapy will do wonders with your son. This is what we did and Josh really learned some great skills to cope with his frustration. My heart goes out to you. It's so hard to watch our little ones go through this. They need our guidence, love, and understanding. Try to get your husband on board. It will make a world of difference for your son. Hugs...  |
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Post by lcdc1 on Jun 1, 2008 12:12:15 GMT -5
I dunno, I might have to agree with some of the others that this sounds like more of a thing of him not having coping skills at this point in time. It is definitely worth talking to the doc about and sitting down with your son when he is calmer so he can learn to maybe try to start verbalizing these frustrations. Just my 2 cents as an adult that used to be that kind of kid!
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Post by charliegirl on Jun 1, 2008 13:38:09 GMT -5
I couldn't say whether it was a ploy for attention, a way to punish himself or him trying to escape his pain by creating other pain but I am positive that whatever his reason for doing it, the main one is that its a cry for help. By ignoring it as your husband wants, you will be telling him that you think he isn't worth caring about. He already feels that way and is desperately trying to get your attention so you will see he wants and needs help. The results of his next bid for attention and help could be one you don't want to have to live with.
I can assure I do know where he is coming from. If you need to hear more, pm me and I'll explain how I know.
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