Why do I feel guilty

[jill]

When I start medicating again I feel guilty why? She did very well this summer besides the incidents a few weeks back socially she has been doing well too. I was told the medication helps her socially and I do remember what she was like without for school. School starts on Wednesday and I admit to procrastinating until this morning to start.

Does it really make a difference socially for socialization?

[charliegirl]

It really makes a difference! I know its hard for you to medicate her but its so worth it for her to not have to struggle so much. Frustration alone has a huge impact on our kids emotional stability and self esteem and that affects every area of their life. I'm sure its helping her with her school work also although the only way you would see that would be to keep her off so you could compare.

[jj]

I don't think any parent wants to give their child medication and I understand the guilt but you just have to tell yourself if she was in severe physical pain, for example, you'd need to give her a pain meds so she could feel better.

Also keep in mind there are so many adults that regret they never had the medication, they have now, when they were kids.

[lcdc1]

I am so sure it is hard to medicate a kid, mine is old enough to make the choice herself on if she wants to try it or not. My 14 year old knows it is an option. I think that your daughter, from what you post, has benefit so much from all the interventions you do including being so involved with her. If she is monitored by the pediatrician and other docs, I think you are making an informed choice. I do know from my personal experience, that not being medicated can result in so much pain of the physical and mental type, that I don't dwell too much on the negatives of meds, I see it as a neccesity for myself!

[misty]

I don't medicate my daughter &I feel guilty about that sometimes. I feel guilty if I don't let her do something all her friends are doing, if I do let her do something that turns out not right for her....I could go on & on. I think whatever major decisions we make concerning our children we are gonna feel guilty at times. My feeling is that the guilt means we care. Its a normal feeling when you are a loving, caring parent. If you didn't feel guilty at times, that's when you should worry!The guilt keeps us on our toes, it keeps us vigilant about what we are or are not doing to & for our children. You're a good mom & that's why you feel guilty about medicating.

[bugsmom]

Jill, you are not alone. I used to give Josh med breaks and every time he had to be put back on for "Back to School", I'd cry my eyes out.

Now its much easier because HE chooses not to go off his meds in the summer. Since he has more of an input, alot of my guilt has gotten better. But, I still have days when I feel guilty for medicating him. I try to think of it this way. If he was diabetic, or asthmatic, or any other kind of disorder, you wouldn't think twice of giving them medication and feeling bad about it. I think that society makes us feel worst about it, quite frankly. As if we don't beat ourselves up enough.

Hugs to you.

[jj]

Sept 1, 2008 21:26:04 GMT -5 bugsmom said:

I think that society makes us feel worst about it, quite frankly. As if we don't beat ourselves up enough.

Hugs to you.

You are soooo right about that Bugs!

[puzzled]

Sept 1, 2008 11:18:51 GMT -5 jj said:

I don't think any parent wants to give their child medication and I understand the guilt but you just have to tell yourself if she was in severe physical pain, for example, you'd need to give her a pain meds so she could feel better.

Also keep in mind there are so many adults that regret they never had the medication, they have now, when they were kids.

That is true. Jon says ALL the time that he wonders just how much he could have done if he had been medicated as a child. He seems envious and in awe of how well Chase does on the meds.