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Post by katiekat on Feb 1, 2009 22:45:31 GMT -5
Last year Sean's teacher was awesome. Whenever we had any type of meeting with the principal/CST/ etc. she stuck with whatever she had told me. She told them all flat out Sean needed more help than she could give him. She was the complete opposite of his kindergarten teacher, who complained to me all the time about his behavior but at the meetings said everything was wonderful. Now I am dealing with that again. She sat in the meeting and said how wonderful Sean's behavior was and she just can't understand why we're concerned and how great of a reader he is and she doesn't get why he can't read at home. Now they started this behavior chart thing at school. They have a calender and they color the day in with a different color depending on if the day was good or bad. It's not specifically for Sean it's the whole class. I find it amazing that 2 weeks ago everything was "perfect" and now he keeps coming home with his chart colored yellow for a "bad day." I just don't get why she lied at the meeting. In his IEP there were a lot of things that I know apply to him but she said no, so they werent checked off as things that need to be worked on. Things like being distracted, talking during class, fidgeting. She said he didn't need help with any of these things but when I asked Sean what made him get a bad day color he listed all of these things as the reason. It makes me so angry and I just don't get the point. I will be saving these behavior charts and pulling them out at the next meeting if needed. Her lying prevents him from getting help he needs.
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Post by jj on Feb 1, 2009 22:57:19 GMT -5
Oh that has got to be so frustrating! I don't get why she would lie either. Why oh why can't all teachers be like you had last year. I'm sorry you on the "Here we go again" trail. Grrr.
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Post by charliegirl on Feb 2, 2009 0:05:48 GMT -5
I just don't get why she lied at the meeting. In his IEP there were a lot of things that I know apply to him but she said no, so they werent checked off as things that need to be worked on. Things like being distracted, talking during class, fidgeting. She said he didn't need help with any of these things but when I asked Sean what made him get a bad day color he listed all of these things as the reason. It makes me so angry and I just don't get the point. g Who is going to be responsible for working on these behaviors with him? Chances are she will be the one who is going to be doing the most. If she can get you to figure out how to make him behave, either with meds or punishment, she won't have to put in the extra effort. Its good that you are saving the behavior charts. She will have to explain them in the meeting, especially if you state what behavior Sean said he was in trouble for each day. It might be a good idea to write down his explanations for each day so you have that to go with the chart. |
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Post by bugsmom on Feb 2, 2009 15:49:15 GMT -5
KK...I don't get this either. I can't tell you how many times I've read about teachers streaching the truth about a kids behavior over on Miller Moms. I just don't get it. It either has to be that she dosen't want to deal with it, or doesn't have time to deal with it. Its almost like if they can ride it out, they'll be gone in a few months and it's over. Arrrggggg!
Just a suggestion...when Josh was in 4th grade, we had a simular behavior chart come home. It was so detrimental to him to have "Bad Day" written on each one. I couldn't imagine him being horrible ALL day, so I made up a new one at home. I broke it down into subjects. It was much more clearer to me what was really going on. In the subjects he loved, he got 10's on the behavior scale. On the subjects he hated, he'd get 3's or 4's. It was during those times during his day his "Bad Day" came from. It really made me mad. Once I changed it, it was more true to how his day really was and we could talk about it. It really helped a lot and my son didn't come home crying everyday that he was the worst kid in the world.
How does Sean respond to his yellow "bad day?"
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Post by katiekat on Feb 2, 2009 22:55:42 GMT -5
Honestly, he is not phased by it in the least. I think because the entire class is doing it and I'm sure he is not the only one getting his chart colored yellow. But today was green!
I guess the lying just does basically boil down to laziness on the teacher's part. Something else I feel she is not exactly truthful about-math. She said at the meeting how great Sean does in math. But he gets every problem wrong on his homework every night. And we go over it and I explain it the best I know how and eventually I end up giving him the answers because he cant figure it out. So I asked him today how he does his math work in school. How come you can do it there and not at home? And he said "I just ask the teacher and she helps me and she tells me the answer." Well now I know why there are kids in 8th grade that can't read, add, or spell. Oh! Which reminds me of something else. In Sean's class they write down their list of spelling words themselves. This is the list they use to study for the spelling test. Well I can't help him study if the writing is unreadable or the words are spelled wrong. So I mentioned this at the IEP meeting and asked the teacher if she would look at his list he wrote to make sure it was correct b/c a lot of the time I can't read it. She agrees and then last week he brings home a new list and one of the words is sudder. Which is not a word so obviously he copied it wrong. But here's the kicker-she signed it!!!
I wrote her a note Fri. letting her know AGAIN that we can't study words that I don't know what they are. My best guess was sudden or supper but she writes back to me today and the word is summer. I would've never guessed that. Does she know how to spell?? I am so aggravated with this woman. I heard nothing good about her from the beginning(she's very disorganized, no structure etc) and knew this was not a good match for Sean.
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Post by katiekat on Feb 3, 2009 19:40:03 GMT -5
OMG I think Sean's teacher needs an IEP for herself.
Today his homework planner (again another thing she is supposed to read over and sign to make sure it is legible and correct) said for his math homework: Homelink. That's it no page number or nothing, obviously he left it off. And she signed it!!!!
It's not like I want her to sign it b/c I want her autograph I want her to actually read it, make sure it's correct, correct it if necessary or have Sean correct it THEN sign it.
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Post by bugsmom on Feb 3, 2009 20:48:39 GMT -5
That is just not acceptable. She is obviously not reading it. Time for a quick e-mail. Make sure you send a copy to the principle and whoever else is in charge of his IEP. This is a total violation.
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Post by sapphyre on Feb 3, 2009 22:57:46 GMT -5
KatieKat, it's wonderful you can still find something funny in this (that teacher does need an IEP for herself  ) It's sad that she's pretending.  You need to go over her head, and you have the evidence that she's not doing her job properly right there in your son's diary. |
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Post by jill on Feb 10, 2009 19:21:29 GMT -5
They are doing that in most schools now same in Annette's class the color coded days. They also had something else special for my girl for getting work done which she told them she did not need anymore nor want.
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