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Post by katiekat on Feb 12, 2009 19:04:41 GMT -5
I need to do some serious venting. This has just got to stop. I honestly cannot take much more of the constant I don't even know what to call it. Sean just driving me insane I guess. He will not leave me alone. It is so ridiculous. We just talked to him about it and then he has come downstairs 6 times in 15 minutes. Over and over and over again he always "needs" something or just wants to say some completely meaningless thing to me. He cannot occupy himself for 2 minutes and I try to be nice the first 50 times but then I just lose it. I am not his playmate. I think I am entitled to 10 minutes of peace. This has been going on since the second he got home from school, then my husband does not even have both feet in the front door and he is doing it to him too. This is every single day. No amount of attention is enough. He will come and tell me I just took a drink or I was watching the TV when you were in the kitchen or do the "what's this" and point at an object thats been in this house longer than me. Nothing we do or say stops it. And yeah, we do stuff with him but no one can entertain their kid 24/7.Yesterday I take him outside to the playground on the 1st nice day we have and he says its too hot after 10 minutes and wants to go home. It was 62 degrees! But then today when it's cold and windy out and I will not go out he harassess me to no end about going out. I can't win. There is no pleasing him. My head feels like it's going to explode right now. Even though it was only 6:30 I had him get in the shower so I could have a minute of peace. OMG he's calling me again!!! Seriously guys, I need help. What a shame I don't drink.
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Post by bugsmom on Feb 12, 2009 23:25:17 GMT -5
KK...I don't even know what to say. It has got to be maddening. Have his docs given you any advice as to what the heck to do with this type of behavior? I mean this has been going on forever.
KK, this sound a little autistic to me, the repetitive stuff over and over again. When I worked in Sp Ed many years ago, I had a child in the classroom that had to tell us everything we did or what the other kids were doing. Your post reminded me of that. Gosh, I wish I had some advice. ((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))
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Post by katiekat on Feb 12, 2009 23:47:59 GMT -5
I completely agree with you. When his therapist had said she was pretty sure he had Aspergers I totally agreed. But then we went to the neuro psych who specializes in AS and he said no way.
We have talked to the therapist about this over and over again but have not come upon a solution. It just gets worse.
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Post by charliegirl on Feb 13, 2009 0:28:17 GMT -5
I wonder if he could have PDD-NOS (pervasive developement disorder-not otherwise specified) which means he has symptoms that are on the autism spectrum but not enough of them in the right combination to be diagnosed as actually autistic or aspergers. That could account for him having certain autistic tendencies but not actually being able to be diagnosed as anything specific.
Since there aren't any medicines which are beneficial with treating aspergers maybe the therapist can find behavior mods and other types of treatment used for the specific symptoms in children with aspergers rather than trying to treat any one thing as a whole diagnosis.
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Post by katiekat on Feb 13, 2009 11:25:02 GMT -5
Well I had an opportunity today to kind of show Sean how annoying this behavior is. Hopefully it sunk in. He has a birthday party tonight to go to so I made a comparison. I asked him how he would feel if during the party I kept interrupting him to tell him things like I just brushed my teeth or if I pointed to things like the cake or a balloon and said whats this? How about if every time you tried to talk to a friend I started making noises or jumped around in between you two? What if during the 2 hour party I said your name a thousand times? Would you enjoy the party or do you think you would be upset with me? He agreed that the party would be no fun and he would not like it if I did that. I'm sure this is not a long term solution but it seems to be buying me some time today.
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Post by kellyh on Feb 13, 2009 12:24:15 GMT -5
I can't even BEGIN to imagine how annoying your life is sometimes...my head wants to explode with just you EXPLAINING what he does!!!! I'm VERY short on patience (should have had kids when I was in my teens...I had TONS of patience then....now...not so much)...and that kid wouldn't last long with me. You need to be nominated for saint hood. And I'm not even kidding! Your husband had truly better appreciate what you're doing for everyone. I can tell you....with the years of what you've put up with, I honestly don't know who else would have.....I wish you did drink....I'd have a big one with you! Hugs are all I can give you girl.
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Post by misty on Feb 13, 2009 12:32:47 GMT -5
Yeah, I agree with Kellyh. I don't know how you stand it. That would drive me to drinking for sure! When Shannon starts her goofy time in the evenings, it only lasts about an hour & even that is too much for me! I have patience, but not for loud obnoxious behavior. How does a person nominate a saint? I think we need to start a petition & nominate you!  |
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Post by katiekat on Feb 13, 2009 15:35:49 GMT -5
LOL :'(thanks guys. Well if I can't get the Saint position maybe I can be nominated as the Biggest Idiot Ever.
Example 5,325: I was on the phone making Sean an orthodontist appt. (a story for another post) and he kept interrupting me for what was apparently a pressing need. When I got off the phone and asked him what was so important he told me that when he ate breakfast this morning he saw that the syrup was on a different shelf than it had been yesterday. No, I'm serious. I couldn't make this stuff up.
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Post by jmb3 on Feb 13, 2009 15:47:24 GMT -5
You can see 3 different doctors and all of them will say 3 different things.
You can try reading:
The Everything Parent's Guide To Children With Asperger's Syndrome: Help, Hope, And Guidance (Everything: Parenting and Family) (Paperback)
by William Stillman (Author)
ISBN-10: 1593371535
I had a friend whose child has similar symptoms, and this book helped them understand there child better.
perhaps, it might help you to.
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Post by jj on Feb 13, 2009 23:38:02 GMT -5
LOL :'(thanks guys. Well if I can't get the Saint position maybe I can be nominated as the Biggest Idiot Ever. Example 5,325: I was on the phone making Sean an orthodontist appt. (a story for another post) and he kept interrupting me for what was apparently a pressing need. When I got off the phone and asked him what was so important he told me that when he ate breakfast this morning he saw that the syrup was on a different shelf than it had been yesterday. No, I'm serious. I couldn't make this stuff up. Oh I'm so sorry but I don't know whether to laugh or cry for you about that. I like your idea of asking if he'd like it if you interrupted him a gazillion times at the party. Maybe you should follow him around and ask him all kinds of dumb questions. Naaa, never mind. That would probably be the attention he wants. I don't know what to say either. I know I would have been totally nuts a long time ago. Surely there is some sort of tested behavior plan for kids like that somewhere??? I'm telling you, you need those head phones playing soothing music or something. |
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