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Post by Tigger on Mar 22, 2009 16:25:21 GMT -5
OK OK OK!!! Now I am really scarred. A plane just crashed!!!! Here in butte montana!!! I guess it missed the runway or I am not really sure quite yet but that is what I am told. And there are fatalities.!!!! This is scarry seeing that I am getting on a plane in 5 days!!! I hope they dont shut the hole thing airport down for the rest of the week. I will give you all up dates as I hear them ok. I just hope I still can go in 5 days.  here is the website you all can go and check it all out www.mtstandard.com/articles/2009/03/22/breaking/hjjajghhidgdia.txt |
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Post by puzzled on Mar 22, 2009 18:12:52 GMT -5
I wish that Jon was being more supportive of me going, and in some ways he is, he wants me to ask about several things once I am there, but in the back of his mind his insecurities have led him to think that this trip is really some clandestine rendevous for me and some internet boyfriend. Silly, I know, but the long and the short of it is that he has always felt that he is not good enough for him, nad no matter how much I tell him that it is him I want, he still thinks I deserve better and that it is only a matter of time until I find someone better....even though I am not looking.
Sorry to burden all of you with my marriage problems....I will shut up now....
I promise not to be a downer at the conference!
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Post by Tigger on Mar 22, 2009 19:31:05 GMT -5
I wish that Jon was being more supportive of me going, and in some ways he is, he wants me to ask about several things once I am there, but in the back of his mind his insecurities have led him to think that this trip is really some clandestine rendevous for me and some internet boyfriend. Silly, I know, but the long and the short of it is that he has always felt that he is not good enough for him, nad no matter how much I tell him that it is him I want, he still thinks I deserve better and that it is only a matter of time until I find someone better....even though I am not looking. Sorry to burden all of you with my marriage problems....I will shut up now.... I promise not to be a downer at the conference! You are fine. My hubby thinks the same but not towards this meeting. He wants me to go and have a good time. Altho I am scarred at the moment about the plane crash. But vent away if you want to.nok We are here for you. |
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Post by unicorn on Mar 22, 2009 21:41:55 GMT -5
I can't wait till Friday! I have been looking for things to do while we are there.
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Post by charliegirl on Mar 22, 2009 23:01:25 GMT -5
It seems that all the tourist sites close at 5 there. If we can't do anything more than sit in one of our rooms and eat junk food and talk together it will still be a great experience to me. The thrill of it for me is more that I get to see you all and meet some of you for the first time. The rest is just the icing on the cake.  Tig, you don't have to be scared. That plane was a private plane carrying more people that it was designed to carry. |
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Post by Tigger on Mar 23, 2009 7:48:05 GMT -5
Tig, you don't have to be scared. That plane was a private plane carrying more people that it was designed to carry. That is what Mike has been telling me. He told me that it is more likely for me to get killed in a car wreck or walking. So reashured me that I will be fine. |
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Post by puzzled on Mar 23, 2009 9:19:14 GMT -5
Jon asked me last night if 'the girls' and me were goiing to go out on the town and celebrate my passing the praxis test....I told them that you were all happy for me and probably thrilled that I am no longer stressing over it to you...but that most likely we will be sitting around gabbing about our kids and behaving like women always do when they get together without kids or husbands....and that I don't think any of you are big drinkers, or bar going types, just like me....not sure if he believes me...whenever he loses control of his temper, he always makes some comment like "I hope that whatever you have going in Philadelphia is worth all this"...<sigh>
The kids have all told him that they don't get why he is so stressed about me going away for a weekend...Chels, Jake...but I think it really all boils down to him being worried that I am finally getting my teaching degree (well at least on my way), which has always been my dream, and his dream, the towing business, is in a major slump, like the rest of the economy, and he feels as if he is at the end of his dream....mainly because his equipment is all in need of repairs, and he really cannot justify spending the money to do that. So, he is even more insecure about providing for us...you know the man-pride thing. Plus he still thinks that I am at some point going to find some guy who is better for me, and leave him. I just don't get it.
We did talk for a long time yesterday about not being able to start building on the new house like we planned, and whether we should look into going ahead and doing some remodeling on this house instead. That would cost much less, and I would like this house better if we made some changes to it, so maybe that is the answer for now.
He is also very concerned about his own ADHD, realizes that it is the reason so many things around here go unfinished, but he won't take medication due to the high cost. He tried the generic Chase is on, and it does not work for him...so that is one of the things I hope to discuss (put that on my survey thingy they had us fill out) with Shire. The fact that the patient assistant programs are an all or nothing proposition...if you have insurance, you can't use the program, even if your insurance only covers a small amount or does not kick in till the deductible is met....to the tune of $3000 or more. A sliding scale would be nice....or something to help those of us who fall through the cracks of the system. He really would benefit from meds but won't spend hundreds a month for them so he suffers...now he says he has lots of trouble remembering things...even directions to a car he needs to tow...he is terrified he is starting the Alzheimers his dad died from, but I think it is his untreated ADHD.
Golly, I am really killing the optimism of this thread aren't I?
Sorry!
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Post by kellyh on Mar 23, 2009 11:25:14 GMT -5
 Oh hell NO we are not sitting in our rooms. There are a TON of good pubs/bars/coffee shops to sit our ass*s in!!! If I'd have wanted to stay in a room, I could have brewed a pot of coffee at home and stared at my kids and husband (which would give them the creeps...but too bad). I know we won't be flipping around town like in NYC, but I'm sure we can find something to walk around to (or take the subway....they do have one in Philly, but I didn't take it when I was up there last year). I know that there was an Irish Pub I saw on our bus tour last year that I'd like to check out. H*ll....I'd be happy with coffee and cheesecake, too.  My husband NEVER is happy for me to go anywhere but after 10 years, he can take it or leave it. His choice. I still go where I want to. I was very timid when we first married and I'd put off or stop doing stuff because he didn't like it...but my old personality (and my old age) came back these last few years....he doesn't like me going places....tough sh*t.....I have to PUSH him to sometimes go out with his friends...he's not too fond of the group I've become a part of here in Richmond either (Richmond mommies) as we get together at least twice a month for bunko and other outings...but I've ALWAYS been an outgoing person who loves to do things and explore....and he's happy tinkering on his Land Rover and Tahoe....so he tinkers and the girls and I (usually...once in a while I go out with only the mommies) go out and about. I refuse to stop living my life anymore. I'm going to Canada in May for a long weekend (pulling the girls out of school for 2 days the weekend before Memorial Day weekend here) because I haven't seen one of my best friends in 5 years and she and her 13 year old daughter are flying in for a weekend. He's staying here because he's working. I'm taking the girls up to a wedding of my best friend's daughter in July for a few days (and we're bringing my mom back for the summer)...and he has drill weekend. I started doing more stuff on my own about 7 years ago when I really wanted to go home to see my mom and he couldn't go because of being on call or drilling...well, I thought enough was enough. So, from the time the girls have been 2 and 4....I've done a LOT of travelling with them on my own. The only time I didn't take them somewhere without him (because he truly was p*ssed that I even suggested it) was about 3 or 4 years ago when my mom had an opportunity for us (I think he was in Iraq) to go to Disney for almost free. He really wants us to do that as a family....but I've taken them other places without him....I, as I keep stressing, refuse to put my life on hold. I also go to the movies and eat out by myself. I've never been afraid to do that either. I'm not planning my life around anyone....and if I have a chance to do something...I will. Too many years (and not just with my husband...but with the other 2 guys who I devoted each 4 years of my life to) I did everything for the other person and I got put on the backburner. Boy...has THIS turned into a rant, eh?  Scared anyone off from meeting me yet??? Oh....and just a warning....I'm on prednisone for some weird itch I have (TMI?  ) and it makes me even a bit more energetic (shall we say politely?) than normal. And a bit more talkative....ear plugs might be a good friend to some of you!!!!
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Post by puzzled on Mar 23, 2009 12:12:37 GMT -5
Oh no! I have been accused on more than one occasion of being talkative too! You other women may be in for a noisy weekend.....
Kelly, I kind of came to the same conclusion, that I don't want to wait for him to be ready to do any traveling, though it took me longer than it did you. His answer is always that he cannot get away from the business, and I cannot convince him that he is making a choice to not go. The towing business would still be here when we got back, even his dedicated town chief's of police would encourage him to go if he told them he was taking a weekend off. He thinks if he went anywhere they would instantly jump to another sevicer, which is so not true. We have not gone anywhere as a family or as a couple for more years than I can count. Not even the token trip to Cedar Point for the day.
I would be up for an outing or two, but I don't want to spend a bunch of money, I am really wanting to save as much as I can for Chels's wedding and paying off my charge card to be finally out of debt.
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Post by Tigger on Mar 23, 2009 15:09:18 GMT -5
Kelly and Puzzled, I am with you 2. I want to go and do what ever you 2 want. I dont wanna sit in the hotel. So lets see how creative we can get.
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I was about to conquer the world but then I got distracted by something shiny.
