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Post by jill on Mar 12, 2009 6:18:59 GMT -5
My girl has some friends but not many and they live quite a distance and sometimes hard to meet up with. In her school my daughter has no one and she tells me on the bus to childcare no one lets her sit with them and they treat her like a leaper. It breaks my heard seeing her rejected all the time for she is so sweet and has so much to give she is not aggressive and will give the shirt off her back for anyone. She gets no phone calls to get together it is a lonely world and she is taking notice now no more obliviousness. This is killing me inside and she is not even in middle school yet I am terrified for my baby.
The school social worker is supposed to be counseling her weekly what is she doing? All I hear is how well she is doing in school getting along with others staying on topic blah blah blah. Last night she threw up again upset over the fact no one will let her sit next to them on the bus. Any advice or ideas welcome.
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Post by sapphyre on Mar 12, 2009 17:29:03 GMT -5
Hi Jill
Are there any outside school activities she could do that are social and involve kids from her year level? They would have a chance to get to know her in a different environment.
I'm afraid I don't have much else to offer - do you know how well she understands social cues, etc? I was just reading a study about how ADHD kids brains are on average 3 years behind their non-ADHD peers.
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Post by anon4now on Mar 13, 2009 6:59:33 GMT -5
My son is going through some of the same things. He comes home and says things like, "The boys at school play basketball and they don't let me play." and he's never wanted to play basketball before. It's just that these boys are popular and they like basketball and so he thinks he has to. We talked to him for a little bit the other day and found out there is one boy that really likes star wars. My son loves star wars and we asked him why he wasn't friends with him. He said because the "other" boys pick on this kid.
I'm actually looking forward to middle school. Our little old school joins 4 other little old schools. There's more diversity and I'm hoping he'll realize the popular kids really don't matter, but true friends are way better.
I don't know how to help you with her social anxieties. But if you just keep telling her how special she is, and how important it is to be true to herself, she'll eventually find a friend that appreciates her for her.
One thing one of the school psychologists told me, was the kids come home and tell you one horrible thing that happened, and because that's all we hear, we think their whole day is horrible. But in reality, it was a 5 min ordeal, and our kids have a hard time letting it go.
One of the things we do now is ask at dinner what was something good that happened today.
Has your pdoc suggested anti-anxiety meds for her?
Anon
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Post by jill on Mar 15, 2009 8:35:05 GMT -5
yeah I know this post was a tough one but worth a try. I had her in girl scouts a year and she was not happy and she does dance. At dance the girls do talk to her they are friendly however she has not bonded with anyone in particular. A lot of the girls at dance go to school together and when they get there group up and my girl the loner yet like I said they will talk to her briefly. I have observed she has difficulty starting conversation so I have been working with her on how to start one. I have let her know that putting something in someones face to get their attention not a good plan and pointed out to her in private the look on the girls face and reaction. I also pointed out to her the great things she did which she did. The school social worker is supposed to be teaching her reading faces and social bonding which I believe they are working on for i have seen a change in Annette. I just want her to have friendships close by not just the ones we have where they live across town.
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Post by anon4now on Mar 20, 2009 5:41:26 GMT -5
Oh Jill, I got one for you!
My son is going around asking the girls who they like. When they say no one, he starts pestering them, telling them yes they do, they have to and he's not leaving them alone until they tell him. When they ask him why? He says "Because I want to tease you about it" !
OMG, I feel very exhausted today. I have to explain to him why this just isn't cool.
So feeling ya!
Anon
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Post by jill on Mar 20, 2009 15:07:29 GMT -5
I would say he is working on his lines.  |
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