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Post by katiekat on Nov 1, 2009 22:22:29 GMT -5
Sean has always been pretty physical with other kids-lots of hitting, kicking etc. Lately this has become a big problem with him hurting his sister. He has always put his hands on her a lot but now it's getting more serious with him hitting her in the face and now tonight his mother called and said he grabbed her face causing her to bleed. My husband and I have talked to him numerous times about this-letting him know that it is not ok to hit-especially a girl and someone who is 3 years younger than you, but hes not listening. Any suggestions on how to attempt to put an end to this?
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Post by charliegirl on Nov 2, 2009 0:27:37 GMT -5
I think we've discussed every single thing I have been able to think of in the past.
Just bumping this up to make sure others see it and hopefully have some fresh suggestions that will work.
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Post by katiekat on Nov 2, 2009 11:56:17 GMT -5
I know CG-I'm desperate at this point. His behavior has been at an all time low. Not the previous issues. New ones-so disrespectful and mouthy. Argues with us about everything. Talking back and refusing to do as we say. The other night he threw a glass of milk at my husband while we were eating dinner because he was told if he didnt eat he doesnt get a snack. It's been unreal. We just don't know what to do anymore.
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Post by anon4now on Nov 2, 2009 12:42:56 GMT -5
It sounds like he lacks impulse control.  You have to start teaching him other ways to express his feelings. One thing I do with DS is explain to him that his feelings are normal. They just have a magnifying glass over them. So when he feels he wants to throw something or hit someone, everyone has a feeling like that, but are able to stop it before it actually happens (tread lightly here, you don't want to give him the ok to hit inadvertantly). Then offer him alternatives then hitting. It's also important to over praise the good behavior. We've gotten to the point in our house where we're addressed with an excuse me sir, or m'am. And the words please and thank you are a must or else the conversation is ignored or corrected. Dinner is a good time to practice this because there's lots of requests. Please hand me the... Thank you... Excuse me... etc. My son's meds have helped with the impulse control though. You may want to bring it up to the pdoc in case you can add something to it. Hope some of that helps. I've been out of the loop lately. A4N |
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Post by jill on Nov 7, 2009 12:28:27 GMT -5
He needs to own up to his actions so immediate intervention definitely needed and his mother needs to be aboard. I would put one of his favorite things or things to do on hold until he can not only apologize but show you good behavior demonstrate how he is to behave around others. Have him practice the behavior you want him to do and when he can show you he can not hit he can then earn back what you have put on hold and let him know the thing on hold it is up to him how long it will take to get it back. Yes I got this from our psychologist and it is in his book. Good luck.
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