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Post by misty on Feb 1, 2011 10:31:06 GMT -5
Shannon is 16 now & not having TOO many issues, but she has the work ethic of a slug! Her room is always a disaster area, she puts off studying & HW to the last minute, & any time I ask her to do anything she's "too tired". She got a job after school. Its only 1.5 hrs 3 times a week at the school working with the little kids in the after school program. After the first week she stopped going citing that she is too tired after school, too hungry, & has to go to the bathroom (she refuses to use the bathrooms at school). I don't know what to do with her. She won't even make a sandwich for herself! I've tried everything I can think of. Anyone else's kids like this?
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Post by bugsmom on Feb 1, 2011 18:34:59 GMT -5
Oh, I think everyone one of those things are classic ADD behaviors. Until they are forced, or unless they see a benefit in the end, they can't get motovated to do most things.
With Josh, if it has anything to do with something for himself, he wants someone else to do it. Such as fixing his food, making his bed, getting something from another room...ect. Drives me nuts!! He actually called me into his room a couple of weeks ago to change his channel because his remote was broke!! I walked out of his room and told him to get a life!!! He said he was cold and didn't want to get out from under the covers!
But, with that said, his work ethic toward "work" is actually really good. He works for my brother-in-law and does a great job...works his butt off. He will do any work for my Dad and never complain. He hussles lawn mowing jobs all summer long and loves it. But, he's also getting paid, and thats his reward. Money is a good incentive for him.
As for the other stuff, I just had to stop doing everything for him and he's just now getting the picture. I told him I'm done being his slave and he needed to learn to take care of himself. All the little things I used to do for him, like lay his clothes out the night before school, packing his bookbag, making his breakfast, is now his job. If he doesn't do it, it doesn't get done and its his fault. I do have a lot of fault for some of his behavior. I used to do everything for him because it was just easier. It was easier to get out the door, easier transistion to the day, whatever it was. Now I know it was wrong to take that approach.
Misty, I think they will eventually learn. As with most things, its just going to take a little more time for ours.
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Post by John on Feb 2, 2011 9:29:12 GMT -5
nuts!! He actually called me into his room a couple of weeks ago to change his channel because his remote was broke!!  Sorry for LoL, but that Is to funny. PS: Another reason kids shouldn't have tv's in their room [j/k] {well not really}. |
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Post by misty on Feb 2, 2011 9:56:36 GMT -5
Shannon has never had me change her channel Too funny! Fixing food is a huge issue here. Shannon's favorite line is "But you make it so much better"! Geesh! I must be getting through to her a little bit though because this morning she made her own peanut butter & jelly sandwich. I about had a coronary! |
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Post by katiekat on Mar 6, 2011 23:40:34 GMT -5
My best friend is having a huge issue with this with her son. Remember the one I helped with the summer school class? The one who passed but still does not physically have his diploma because he owes the school hundreds of dollars for books he lost over the years. He is 19, has been out of school since last June and does absolutely nothing with his life. He did not want to go to college, wont get his license, and refuses to work. He brings his friends over and makes a complete mess of the kitchen and leaves it there and she is stuck cleaning it up. She is at her wits end with him.
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Post by jj on Mar 7, 2011 21:25:05 GMT -5
Do teens ever have clean rooms? I think it is a rare thing for any teen to voluntarily clean their room on a regular basis.
I'm not sure what makes some teens I know that can't wait to get a job to get their own money (and do!) and then you have the exact flip side, the slug. lol
If it makes you feel any better Misty, I was a teen slug. But once I turned 18, I got a job and never stopped working and I turned into somewhat of a clean freak. So there may be hope.
Sorry Bugs, I had to laugh at the broken remote thing too. Not that it was funny for you at the time. I know I would have been quite irritated.
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