Friend problems

[jill]

Annette's too good to be true friend friend is now turning on her. She has been hanging out with other girls who do not like my girl and at the lunch table not including her in conversation. Annette says she waits for everyone to stop talking and when she tries to say something someone else interrupts and cuts her off and he friend is acting on the snooty side when with these girls. Annette came up with initials for bff and her friend stole the idea and told the others she came up with Annette's idea and was nasty with her. I have spent a lot of money on this girl and we have taken her many places for her mother Never Sends her with Money Nor offers. Annette does feel the pain she cried in my arms last night and it is showing in her behavior as well she has been bear. She had a meltdown in a store and I had a hard time dragging her out but did.
I am not sure what to make of this as of yet but did call the school social worker who meets with her to help her and I am planning to get her back into counseling. The sad part if this friend does not get better she will have only 1 person to talk to in school. Arggggg!

[jill]

Up date the friend is a little better but only when her other friends are not around. The one positive is another girl saw her friend make her sit alone and invited Annette to join her and her friends and they are being nicer to Annette. They are in girls group together and she has been talking and texting to Annette. I am taking it one day at a time and feeling blessed that this girl Tiffany has befriended Annette.

[katiekat]

Poor Annette. Kids can really be so mean. I hope her new friend sticks around and continues to encourage others to be nice to her. As for the other one I would not spend another dime on her. Hugs to Annette.

[jj]

I'm sorry I missed your first post but I'm glad there is another girl who is befriending her. It must be so hard, as a parent, to watch things like this. I was lucky, Nikki, never had social issues and I don't recall anything like this with Gary or Joey so I can only imagine what you go through when your kids are snubbed. Hugs to you and Annette.

[bugsmom]

I missed this too, Jill...

My heart goes out to Annette. I had flash-backs reading this post. We had the same stuff happen to Josh in upper elementry. It's just heartbreaking. Middle school is so much worst. I agree, I wouldn't spend another dime on the friend who is turning against her. She'll realize what she's doing sooner or later, and if she doesn't Annette doesn't need her.

Hang in there...and come and vent when you need too.

[jill]

The friend has at this point cut Annette out of her life and as for her new friends I am concerned. It would appear they are troubled and on the road to destruction. One brags to Annette how she does not do her school work and does not care and another told Annette she wants to die. I had to talk to her about the school work thing how un cool it was to do that and as for the depressed one I put a call into the school social worker.

As for counseling for my child where she was going before she got rejected because of my job. With my job we deal with counseling agencies and her old counselor does preventative work along with counseling and felt it would be a conflict of interest. The way the County is running things I deal mainly with one agency for preventative and it is the same I just want to know how the counselor knows this. I plan to ask her psychologist for help for Annette wants counseling. The search continues.

[jj]

I'm sorry that one friend did that to her. I also feel bad for her other new friends as well as Annette. I just hate that kids that age are already dealing with so much unhappiness. Thank goodness Annette has a wonderful Mom. And you are such a good Mom, Jill. You have been doing everything in your power to help your precious girl.

I hope you find that counceling for Annette, soon.

[jill]

Counseling to begin in July through my psychologists office.