How to get a picky eater to eat

[jill]

Annette has been picky for a long time and has worsened to the point I never know what to cook or make for will she eat it. If She gets ill after eating something and associates it with what she ate last and then that is off her what she will eat list which is limited as it is. Mind you the food had nothing to do with it. The girl can go all day and not care about food and I went with the theory she gets hungry she will eat. If I ask her what do you want I will get you anything the answer is always "I do not know" when ideas are offered "I do not want that."
I am now hitting the panic button after her doctors appointment yesterday when my girl grew an inch and lost 6lbs since her last appointment from December. I have had people telling me how thin she looks and I kept thinking she is active and I cannot count her ribs and figured it is he body shape. I also thought it was from getting taller. The Pediatrician wants to see her in December and told us she cannot lose anymore and she is listed as underweight. I feel like it is my fault in a way for I have been weight conscious trying to lose for me for I am overweight and have been since Middle school. I have been buying all healthy choices and encouraging good nutrition etc now I feel am I too blame although I tell her she is perfect as is. How to fatten up the pick one is my big dilemma for she will eat something one day and not the next. I did talk to her worried about eating disorders and she tells me she is just plan not hungry and can care less about food. I wish I can trade with her awhile then I will get smaller lol. Sorry this is long. As for family support most everyone in my family is overweight or just where they should be never an underweight problem. Ideas welcome to get her to gain.

[bugsmom]

Jill, does Annette like milkshakes? I was thinking if she could make her own milkshake at night before bed, she could get a little extra fat from the ice cream and milk. You could have her pick out some type of fruit she likes and mix it in, that way she could have a different one every night. Also, I was thinking she could grocery shop with you and pick the things she might like that week.

I seen the pictures you posted on Facebook for her first day of school, and I didn't think she looked too underweight. She looked beautiful. But, I can understand your concern when the doctor puts it that way. I'm just thinking she's stretching out, but if she has no appetite, that's usually not the case with most pre-teens and teens.

I'd just keep a good eye on her and keep on offering her the choice to pick what she likes. I don't have a picky eater, but I know a lot of people who do and I'm sure its hard to deal with. Hang in there.

[jill]

I think part of it was she did grow an inch and yes her waist did get smaller. We were told she is on the verge of becoming underweight she cannot lose anymore he said. I did tell him she is active between Martial Arts and Dance. As for the milkshakes I am going to try and getting whole milk just for her. Annette is the type if I get her to like something she will get obsessed then after a month not want it again for a long time. Another problem we face. As for shopping she never wants to go so I try having her make a list for me and also let her know to text me if she thinks of something she wants. The text I get is for a pack of gum. Thanks I keep you posted.


Oh and as for her eating habits on weekends I do not give her her meds and she still eats the same could care less about food.

[bugsmom]

I hate grocery shopping too!! I don't blame Nett for not wanting to go.

Keep us updated on how its going.

[jill]

Because I have been putting more snacks in the home she is nibbling a little more but not as much as me . I wish I can be like her that food is not important lol. I love food part of the problem.

[jill]

Now it would appear Annette can care less about food really when able to get take out and given the choice she does not want anything like she is not interested in food at all does not care except for what she does not want. Is this normal to not care about food?