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Post by anonymous on Dec 16, 2011 18:43:09 GMT -5
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Post by anonymous on Dec 16, 2011 18:46:59 GMT -5
i have adhd (i'm a girl) and i wanted to know what i can do to have better social skills. many people think i'm annoying which i agree with. Whenever I'm talking to someone, i never have anything to say. This mostly started this year. I feel like i have no personality and everyone hates me. When i do engage in conversation, I can become very annoying. Many of my old friends are either not my friends or not as close as we used to be. I do not have many friends and I spend almost all my free time along, what do i do?
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Post by John on Dec 16, 2011 19:27:20 GMT -5
Dear Anonymous, first welcome to this site and glad you asked your question. Second I was diagnosed with ADD about six years ago. What has helped me immensely is therapy, this has helped me to learn healthy ways to deal with the way I think. Adjusting the way you think about yourself and situations leads to more healthy ways you feel about yourself. The kind of therapy I found helpful is called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT. Also helpful is medz to help your brain work better. Talk therapy and medz together are an important and powerful combination that many doctors and others recommend as a way of dealing with ADD and many other mental health issues.  |
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Post by misty on Dec 16, 2011 20:16:23 GMT -5
anonymous, Hello & welcome! I feel so bad that you feel like you are all alone. I have a teenage daughter with ADD & my biggest worry,other than her grades, is that she just doesn't have as many friends as other kids her age. One thing to keep in mind is that kids with ADD (or ADHD) are a bit behind in maturity than their peers. My daughter has found that boys don't seem to mind as much and she has widened her social circle immensely by hanging with the boys more often. She also has become friends with several kids who are a grade or 2 behind her & they seem to be a better fit. If you have a social worker or therapist at school, this can be another great resource. They can help you learn to get a better hold on your thoughts, and other social skills. They can also help you talk to your parents about what's bothering you if you have trouble explaining things to them. Can you tell us, are you on any medications? Do you go to as therapist? John mentioned CBT & he's right, so many people with ADD have been successful with it.  |
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Post by jj on Dec 19, 2011 14:13:08 GMT -5
Hi Annonymous,
I don't have a lot to add but wanted to welcome you to the site. Keep in mind that it is pretty common for friends to grow apart and go their seperate ways. That is just part of life.
I too am sorry you feel alone and don't have anything to say. Do you have any interests like art or sports or even just exercising. Maybe joining a club or group that sounds interesting to you will give you a little something to talk about. Just a thought.
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