Post by misty on Jan 6, 2007 19:47:58 GMT -5
Thread Started on Sept 3, 2006, 1:33am
Do any of you have kids who like to hit?
Shannon doesn't do it too often, but sometimes she just lashes out & PUNCHES one of us or the dogs. Not out of the blue, but when shes mad at us.
Like today, she came home from her friends house & put the stack of papers she was carrying on the sofa beside her. The pitbull was excited to see her & jumped up, inadvertantly landing on the papers & crumpling them. Without even seeming to think, Shannon hauled back & punched her in the head! I SAW her do it & she denied it. She felt bad, I could tell, & when I eventually got her to admit what she'd done I asked her why. She could'nt say. She said she didn't MEAN to, it was just a reaction.
She hit me a few weeks ago when, after she refused to get off the computer, I reached around her to shut it off. She got in BIG trouble for it.
I just don't get it. WE dont hit her. We never even spanked her when she was little. I've talked to her about it until I'm blue in the face. Like I said, she doesn't do it often, but its a habit (or impulse) I'd like to break. Any ideas I might not have thought of?
unicorn-tiff'smom
Tiff does this too. In fact, she did it this morning. I told her that she was going to have to take her medicine this morning since we are going to the fair late this afternoon and for safety on the rides she had to take it. She came up behind me and hit me in the back and said she didn't want to take her pill. I just responded, this is why you are going to take it and got it and put it in her mouth.
Once in a while she does this and I tell her it is not appropriate and that hitting doesn't solve problems, you just in trouble for doing it. And it stops for a while.
misty
Yeah, it stops for awhile, but she ends up doing it again at some point! I've told Shannon all the same things. I just don't want hitting to become a habit when shes upset. I'm afraid if I dont get her to completely stop doing it, she may end up being an abusive wife or mother someday. That scares me.
katiekat
Sean is pretty big with the hitting but it's always with other kids. In fact he was kicked out of 2 pre schools for it. It continued at the 3rd one we enrolled him in. At the suggestion of the 2nd pre school when he was 3 we took him to a child psyhchologist who said there were no problems. However now at almost 6 it's still a problem. This is my greatest fear about kindergarten-that he will be hitting other children in a "real" school. We have tried everything. Time outs, taking something away from, talking to him about how it makes others feel to be hit-makes no difference. We were just at a block party on our street and he was running a relay race, when it was over the 2 groups of kids were arguing about who won he walks over to this kid whos about 12 and punches him in the stomach. I made him sit for 5 minutes then talked to him about hitting. The SECOND he got up a baby walked by with a ball he wanted so he knocked the baby down and took the ball. We left and did not go back. I give up.
Do any of you have kids who like to hit?
Shannon doesn't do it too often, but sometimes she just lashes out & PUNCHES one of us or the dogs. Not out of the blue, but when shes mad at us.
Like today, she came home from her friends house & put the stack of papers she was carrying on the sofa beside her. The pitbull was excited to see her & jumped up, inadvertantly landing on the papers & crumpling them. Without even seeming to think, Shannon hauled back & punched her in the head! I SAW her do it & she denied it. She felt bad, I could tell, & when I eventually got her to admit what she'd done I asked her why. She could'nt say. She said she didn't MEAN to, it was just a reaction.
She hit me a few weeks ago when, after she refused to get off the computer, I reached around her to shut it off. She got in BIG trouble for it.
I just don't get it. WE dont hit her. We never even spanked her when she was little. I've talked to her about it until I'm blue in the face. Like I said, she doesn't do it often, but its a habit (or impulse) I'd like to break. Any ideas I might not have thought of?
unicorn-tiff'smom
Tiff does this too. In fact, she did it this morning. I told her that she was going to have to take her medicine this morning since we are going to the fair late this afternoon and for safety on the rides she had to take it. She came up behind me and hit me in the back and said she didn't want to take her pill. I just responded, this is why you are going to take it and got it and put it in her mouth.
Once in a while she does this and I tell her it is not appropriate and that hitting doesn't solve problems, you just in trouble for doing it. And it stops for a while.
misty
Yeah, it stops for awhile, but she ends up doing it again at some point! I've told Shannon all the same things. I just don't want hitting to become a habit when shes upset. I'm afraid if I dont get her to completely stop doing it, she may end up being an abusive wife or mother someday. That scares me.
katiekat
Sean is pretty big with the hitting but it's always with other kids. In fact he was kicked out of 2 pre schools for it. It continued at the 3rd one we enrolled him in. At the suggestion of the 2nd pre school when he was 3 we took him to a child psyhchologist who said there were no problems. However now at almost 6 it's still a problem. This is my greatest fear about kindergarten-that he will be hitting other children in a "real" school. We have tried everything. Time outs, taking something away from, talking to him about how it makes others feel to be hit-makes no difference. We were just at a block party on our street and he was running a relay race, when it was over the 2 groups of kids were arguing about who won he walks over to this kid whos about 12 and punches him in the stomach. I made him sit for 5 minutes then talked to him about hitting. The SECOND he got up a baby walked by with a ball he wanted so he knocked the baby down and took the ball. We left and did not go back. I give up.
