Post by misty on Jan 6, 2007 22:53:52 GMT -5
katiekat.................Thread Started on Yesterday at 4:25pm
Does anyone else have this problem-if so please tell me how you handle it before I lose it completely. Sean has always(but lately it's become much worse) obsessed over things. If he gets an idea in his head no matter how much we tell him no he does not let up. He will talk about it night and day forever. Even when we say dont say that word again he will start up 5 minutes later. He will find something he wants or wants to do and will perseverate on it non stop. He has literally said the words "gift card" 500 times in the past 2 days. He also wants to take a toy to his friends house after school on Monday and has not stopped talking about that since 11 a m yesterday. He wants to take yugio cards he needs a bag for them he wants to write on it and on and on.He is frantic over it. I googled this and got a web site-the bi polar child and it described what he does to a tee.
annem
Hi KatieKat ... I think this is more common than you may think amongst our adhd'ers .... and I dooo believe it is an adhd trait and NOT necessarily a bipolar trait (although it may well be found there too!) ...
My son is not bipolar but he was for years and years like this ... normally over something he had decided he wanted to do or get ... and until it was either "done" or "bought" he would go on and on and on about it (whatever it was!) ..
Sam is now 18 going on 19 and I am pleased to say that this is NOWHERE near like it was ... But (sorry but there is a but!) there is still a trace of it in him ... for example he is a very keen fisherman ... and if he decides that he wants to go fishing the following day ... and then can't for whatever reason ... he will continue to want to go on a CONSTANT basis until he actually IS able to go ... and then ... and then and only then the idea of going fishing (only using this as an example) is satisfied and he can put that thought behind him "until the next time" ...
He is the same if he has ordered something to arrive in the post ... he will almost pace up and down waiting for whatever it is to arrive ... and heaven help him if it arrives a day or two later than he expected!! [image]
So although it improves the traits are often still left over !!
Also, much as I can empathise ... I haven't got any great ideas on how to handle it .. it just used to frustrate me HUGELY!!
jj
You know on another site there were some "people" who said ADHD doesn't exist. That they had seen how the parents would just give in to what ever their kid wants. Because they "saw" this they thought it was just a matter of discipline and sticking to your guns. Ha, Ha, ha. I wish they could read this thread and the one Misty posted.
Sure parents may give in and who can blame them because if they don't "give in" on the little stuff once in a while they are in for days worth of nagging.
Once these kids get a notion in their head it is as if every other thought has evaporated and that "notion" is the ONLY thing they have left in their brain. I am telling you....this brings back the memories and not fond ones I can guarantee you!
BTW Katiekat, My "fond memories" are of Nikki, my grand niece whom I had custody. Nikki is not bipolar. She was officially DX'd ADD (not hyper) and I am 100% the DX was correct. But she was exactly like your son.
bugsmom
Katie...I can so relate to this subject. Josh isn't quite as bad as he was when he was younger, but he still does this. We can't tell him plans we make for something fun, until the morning we do it, or he'll just go on and on about what we plan to do. It is just questions after question. Josh's favorite thing in the world is to go fishing and bow hunting. If he and my husband plan a day out, he will talk about the lures he's going to use, what pole to bring, what he's going to wear... over and over until I want to pull my hair out. He continues on until they have done the activity. Believe me your not alone. I think with Josh's anxiety, the talking about it calms him down and and he feels more in control when he has everything planned out. I don't know...that's what it seems like to me. Hang in there!
Does anyone else have this problem-if so please tell me how you handle it before I lose it completely. Sean has always(but lately it's become much worse) obsessed over things. If he gets an idea in his head no matter how much we tell him no he does not let up. He will talk about it night and day forever. Even when we say dont say that word again he will start up 5 minutes later. He will find something he wants or wants to do and will perseverate on it non stop. He has literally said the words "gift card" 500 times in the past 2 days. He also wants to take a toy to his friends house after school on Monday and has not stopped talking about that since 11 a m yesterday. He wants to take yugio cards he needs a bag for them he wants to write on it and on and on.He is frantic over it. I googled this and got a web site-the bi polar child and it described what he does to a tee.
annem
Hi KatieKat ... I think this is more common than you may think amongst our adhd'ers .... and I dooo believe it is an adhd trait and NOT necessarily a bipolar trait (although it may well be found there too!) ...
My son is not bipolar but he was for years and years like this ... normally over something he had decided he wanted to do or get ... and until it was either "done" or "bought" he would go on and on and on about it (whatever it was!) ..
Sam is now 18 going on 19 and I am pleased to say that this is NOWHERE near like it was ... But (sorry but there is a but!) there is still a trace of it in him ... for example he is a very keen fisherman ... and if he decides that he wants to go fishing the following day ... and then can't for whatever reason ... he will continue to want to go on a CONSTANT basis until he actually IS able to go ... and then ... and then and only then the idea of going fishing (only using this as an example) is satisfied and he can put that thought behind him "until the next time" ...
He is the same if he has ordered something to arrive in the post ... he will almost pace up and down waiting for whatever it is to arrive ... and heaven help him if it arrives a day or two later than he expected!! [image]
So although it improves the traits are often still left over !!
Also, much as I can empathise ... I haven't got any great ideas on how to handle it .. it just used to frustrate me HUGELY!!
jj
You know on another site there were some "people" who said ADHD doesn't exist. That they had seen how the parents would just give in to what ever their kid wants. Because they "saw" this they thought it was just a matter of discipline and sticking to your guns. Ha, Ha, ha. I wish they could read this thread and the one Misty posted.
Sure parents may give in and who can blame them because if they don't "give in" on the little stuff once in a while they are in for days worth of nagging.
Once these kids get a notion in their head it is as if every other thought has evaporated and that "notion" is the ONLY thing they have left in their brain. I am telling you....this brings back the memories and not fond ones I can guarantee you!
BTW Katiekat, My "fond memories" are of Nikki, my grand niece whom I had custody. Nikki is not bipolar. She was officially DX'd ADD (not hyper) and I am 100% the DX was correct. But she was exactly like your son.
bugsmom
Katie...I can so relate to this subject. Josh isn't quite as bad as he was when he was younger, but he still does this. We can't tell him plans we make for something fun, until the morning we do it, or he'll just go on and on about what we plan to do. It is just questions after question. Josh's favorite thing in the world is to go fishing and bow hunting. If he and my husband plan a day out, he will talk about the lures he's going to use, what pole to bring, what he's going to wear... over and over until I want to pull my hair out. He continues on until they have done the activity. Believe me your not alone. I think with Josh's anxiety, the talking about it calms him down and and he feels more in control when he has everything planned out. I don't know...that's what it seems like to me. Hang in there!
