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Post by katiekat on Jun 28, 2007 23:17:10 GMT -5
Sean has been having some really great days(actually weeks) lately. His behavior has been wonderful. He is able to occupy himself more often and hasn't been constantly pestering me about a million things. His neediness has been minimal and he's just been really good. This started when he didnt go to the grandparents house for 3 weeks because the mom had gall bladder surgery. Then he went to their house for the weekend and when he came home he was unbearable. Then he didnt see them for the past 2 weeks and he has been great. I mentioned this to the psych. at his program and she talked to him about it and what she got out of him is that they constantly entertain him and then when he comes home he is overly demanding. While I understand they're is grandparents they totally baby him and treat him like he's 2. They even talk to him in the 3rd person like"Grandpop wants you to give him a kissy bye bye" and that kind of nonsense. Anyway he's going there this weekend and I'm curious to see how he is next week and if my theory that they set him off is correct. I think they encourage his obnoxious behavior. They think it's cute.
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Post by lostmyshoe on Jun 29, 2007 7:14:10 GMT -5
Hi KK,
I'll be interested to hear what happens. It kind of sounds like he's taking strides forward in being more independent when he is at home and goes backwards after he has been with his grandparents. If this is the case it sounds like you may have to get his grandparents up to speed on the fact that he is growing up some now and needs to be treated a little older and given some things to do on his own. Grandparents sometimes can really baby their grandchildren. My Mother does that too sometimes and I have to remind her that Becca is getting older. I hope everything works out for you and you can resolve this situation. Good luck KK.
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Post by puzzled on Jun 29, 2007 8:40:04 GMT -5
Jon's mom used to do things like that with Jonna too. They would visit on Wednesdays and Sundays (she was their only grandchild) and she would literally not let the child's feet touch the ground for the entire afternoon/evening! It would take me from the time they left until they were about to come again to convince her that she could play alone sometimes! Finally Jonna got older and understood that grandma rules were not mommy rules.
I will be interested to hear what happens too.
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Post by jj on Jun 29, 2007 15:22:43 GMT -5
I wouldn't be surprised if that has a big part in why he acts up. I know my sister is just plain tired of arguing.
I'll be sure to check this thread again to find out what happened.
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Post by charliegirl on Jun 29, 2007 23:16:19 GMT -5
My daughter doesn't have any issues as far as I know but she always was a monster for a few days after she came home from her father's.
I just assumed it was that she was on her best behavior there and when she got home and knew she was perfectly safe, she let it all out.
I felt like I was getting all the tantrums she didn't dare have there. She always knew she was loved and wanted so it wasn't a justifiable fear if she had been old enough to think about it logically. I think she just knew that I loved her unconditionally but she wasn't as confident of her father and grandmother.
Incidentally, the twins are doing the same thing to her now.
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Post by katiekat on Jul 2, 2007 11:48:22 GMT -5
Well Sean is being back to his old annoying,needy, ways of the past today. Hopefully I just set him straight by letting him know that he is back to "real life" and my sole purpose is not to entertain him all day. That said my h has decided that Sean cannot go over his g-parents for a whole other reason. Yesterday my h's dad called him freaking out and said that Sean was having a very bad asthma attack and that he needed to come get him right away and take him to the hospital. So he had to cut his trip a little short and go pick him up. We weren't too concerned as he is a complete hyperchondriac and exaggerator. My husband gets there and Sean is fine-a little cough but nothing alarming. His dad is yelling at him that he must take Sean to the hospital immeadiately because he is going to get much worse. when they get in the car Sean says he feels fine but g-pop was telling him he couldn't breathe. An hour later they are calling our house and both cell phones over and over but my h didn't want to talk to them so they kept calling...when he answered the dad was mad because he didn't go to the hosp. HE WAS FINE. Bottom line my h told them that as long as they have the cat Sean can no longer go over there because of his allergies and that the Zyrtec must not be working if Sean becomes so "critically ill" at their house.  |
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Post by charliegirl on Jul 2, 2007 12:07:42 GMT -5
Well, with all that going on at least you will get a respite from the behavior he brings back from the grandparents. Now we just have to find a way for you to get a break from him once in a while.  |
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Post by katiekat on Jul 2, 2007 13:30:54 GMT -5
Actually next month I will be getting a wonderful break. Joseph goes to his dad's in FL every Aug. so I made it known months ago to the egg donor that she would have Sean while Joe is gone. He is going from Aug 5 to the 23rd and she will be taking Sean. Just so happens her job asked 2 people to voluntarily be laid off til Sept. and she volunteered. AND as a bonus my h is taking me to the Bahamas-we are booking the trip as soon as he gets home from work tonight. WOO HOO  |
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Post by puzzled on Jul 2, 2007 13:45:55 GMT -5
That is great news! If you are in the Bahamas, at least she can't be calling you to come get him....
Enjoy your vacaion! I loved the Bahamas!
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Post by charliegirl on Jul 2, 2007 14:11:57 GMT -5
Do you see me drooling? I am sooooo jealous!
Have a great time!
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