Intentionally Misbehaving?

[katiekat]

Sometimes I think Sean has more control over his behavior than we believe. If he had no control over it I think his behavior would be pretty consistent no matter who was around. But I have noticed that it changes from person to person. When he is with his bio. mother he is at his worst. His behavior is extremely disrespectful and violent. When he is with me and Andy is not around he is a tad bit disrespectful, but extremely annoying. I feel sometimes that he intentionally annoys me. He just refuses to stop pestering me and doesn't listen very well. Now when my husband is around none of this will happen. He will play like a regular kid and not do the things that he does to me all day when my husband is at work. Sometimes I feel like he is being manipulative. This reminds me of something that happened a few years ago when Sean was in daycare. Because he was constantly hurting other children the daycare wanted him evaluated by a therapist. They set up a video camera in the room and Sean knew it was there. The first day with the camera his behavior was perfect, so they tried 2 more days with it...nothing. On the 4th day the camera had been removed and that was the day he got kicked out of the daycare center for once again hurting another child. Seriously, other kids dads used to threaten my husband for Sean hurting their kids all the time. I don't know but more and more lately it seems like Sean just wants to push buttons and purposefully make people angry.

[jj]

Kids always seem to behave better for Dads. Maybe because they are a little more afraid of them. But it has been this way forever.

My niece certainly does enjoy annoying and picking fights with her Mom. She giggles as she is doing it. (Grrrrr) But she adores her Dad and has him wrapped around her little finger. But the problem here is her Dad does not discipline her so all discipline is on my sister's shoulders. So my sister is the bad guy.

I don't know KK. Sometimes I think because women are a little more gentle and may let the kids get away with a little more because they are the primary care-takers and it is just wearing to be constantly correcting, giving out punishment, etc... this may promote worse behavior but it certainly isn't the whole story.