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Post by katiekat on Sept 2, 2007 12:12:12 GMT -5
I know I mentioned before how Sean changes his behavior from one person to the next. I just don't understand it and it drives me crazy. Here's what happened. Sean's g-parents had a cat that was very old and has been sick for some time-they have been debating having her put to sleep for a while now. Sean is very allergic to cats and cannot sleep at their house. Last week they put the cat to sleep and I told him. He was very excited and said "Patches is dead! Now I can sleep over G-mom's house!" He wasn't upset at all. In fact on Fri. he said to me "that sure was nice they put Patches to sleep for me" I explained to him that the cat was put down because she was sick not so he could sleep over their house. Now, yesterday the g-parents pick him to take him out(they want to have their house cleaned before they take him there) and when they bought him home they told us that they told him the cat was put to sleep and how devestated he was. He couldn't stop crying and was just so upset. WHAT!?He already knew about this and was anything but upset-he was glad. UGH this drives me up a wall.
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Post by puzzled on Sept 2, 2007 12:33:03 GMT -5
It would make me crazy too, kk....it is a dilemma.
I wonder if it was that he was feeding off them being upset....maybe he tuned into that, and added with the fact that you had told them that the cat was sick....?
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Post by misty on Sept 2, 2007 13:35:57 GMT -5
Well, I'm not sure, but we had something similar. My parents had a Golden Retriever & he was pretty old when Shannon was born & he passed away when she was about 5 or 6. She LOVED that dog. She called him "Uncle" Rebel, she slept on him numerous times, she'd kiss him goodbye when we left after a visit. When I told her he had died, she was pretty nonplussed. She just said something like "He was getting old & he's probably in Heaven now".....BUT the next time she was at my moms she was crying about him & almost inconsolable. I never thought it was abnormal that she reacted differently here than she did there. I just figured she knew how much they loved him & so couldn't stay strong in front of them, but here she could because we weren't as emotional over his passing as they were.
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Post by jj on Sept 2, 2007 15:53:41 GMT -5
I think it may be a couple things playing here that he reacted differently. First of all, he was detached from the cat when he was home. Sort of like - out of sight, out of mind. And like the others said, When he got to the grandparents house it was a reality. The cat was gone! And the grandparents were upset.
I'm not sure if it is anything to be concerned about but it is interesting.
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Post by charliegirl on Sept 2, 2007 18:13:49 GMT -5
Possibly he understood with his head but it didn't connect with his emotions that the cat was really gone until he saw his grandparents and realized he wouldn't also see the cat.
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Post by bugsmom on Sept 2, 2007 19:09:54 GMT -5
Well, my first thoughts were a little different. From what you've said about your in-laws my take on the situation was this:
1.) They really over-reacted in the way they talked to Sean about the cat. I have a feeling that they might have made him feel bad about the situation and as Puzzled said "He fed off of them".
Or...
2.) They were going a little overboard in telling you how Sean reacted.
From what you've said of them in other posts, they can be kind of manipulating. It wouldn't suprise me if they did a little of that here.
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