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Post by katiekat on Nov 4, 2007 8:26:06 GMT -5
I am totally convinced now that Sean has much more control over his behavior than we believe. After a horrible day at school on Thursday he had a wonderful day on Friday. Why? Because I told him that if I got a bad note on Friday I would throw out his entire bag of Halloween candy. His behavior was perfect and the second he saw me after school he said "I get to keep my candy." If something is important to him he will behave for it. That takes some control.
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Post by lisacap on Nov 4, 2007 8:59:32 GMT -5
I agree with you, I go through that all the time with Christian, if he wants to do something he can be the most well behaved child you ever met, but if there is nothing going on or nothing he wants, it is hell....I think they can control when they want too...
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Nov 4, 2007 12:47:14 GMT -5
Post by annem on Nov 4, 2007 12:47:14 GMT -5
Oh yes !! ... I remember when my son (now aged 19) was about 13-14 years old ... and was sometimes put on "report" - meaning he had to get a teacher to sign him off and score him on behaviour after each lesson ... and he would get 10/10 ALL the time !!  So ... How come he could behave sooooo well when on report and yet NOT behave when NOT on report ?? (and bearing in mind it was the bad behaviour which lead to being "on report" in the first place!") ... I never figured that out ... but I do think "incentive" has a huge amount to do with behaviour!! .. He had an "incentive" ... i.e. the teachers giving him a good score and congratulating him on his good behaviour... and that made him want to behave ... Take away the "incentive" (i.e. no praise and no reward) and it was a different ball-game!!  |
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Nov 5, 2007 13:16:20 GMT -5
Post by katiekat on Nov 5, 2007 13:16:20 GMT -5
And I quote "Sean had an excellent day, I am very proud of him." It's amazing what a little Halloween candy can do.
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Nov 5, 2007 22:33:30 GMT -5
Post by mary2 on Nov 5, 2007 22:33:30 GMT -5
And I quote "Sean had an excellent day, I am very proud of him." It's amazing what a little Halloween candy can do. Confiscating the gameboy works for me. Once he doesn't have it, he starts cooperating with everything. I am just waiting for the day when he can do his things responsibly. |
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Nov 5, 2007 23:22:54 GMT -5
Post by katiekat on Nov 5, 2007 23:22:54 GMT -5
Yes, I don't know what I'll do once the candy is gone.
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Post by mary2 on Nov 6, 2007 7:39:16 GMT -5
Yes, I don't know what I'll do once the candy is gone. Isn't there another favorite thing? My son will get very affected about his gameboy, like I already said, or about some alien plastic figurines he is obsessed about. I wish candy were one of his favorites, but his appetite has been so bad that he even lost interest in candy. I have been working hard with this issue but it has been so difficult. We are monitoring his weight closely; Dr said that if he starts growing at a lower pace we will have to think about quitting medication and this scares me so much because he has been doing so well in regard to ADHD with it. |
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