I need some advice please

[lostmyshoe]

Wow girls, I thought having a girl was the hardest but I can see that boys too can be difficult at this age ADD or not. The ADD/ADHD just adds to it. My daughter is actually improving some lately. Her worst year in school was last year right before she turned 13. I still have the attitude though and like Misty's daughter the not picking up after herself at home. So far we have also not had her on medication at all and doing okay. She's doing better with getting assignments done but this week she's said she has not had homework a few days in a row. I haven't seen any F's yet so I hope she's telling the truth and not blowing off any homework. The teen years can be tough. I'm right there with you Sweetpea and everyone else too.

[carol]

Hi Sweetpea,

I am new here. Your story sounds similar to my son. My input is in all the reading I do about children with learning and/or attentional difficulties comes an array of other problems. It is unfortunate, but they are really struggling with their own selves. Having a low self-esteem comes with this territory. With that being said, it is not uncommon for the inconsistent behavior. It could be from meds or teacher tolerance that day or 5 different other things. A pattern has to be established. This is difficult with these kids. Sometimes, the pattern does come out and bite you on the nose. I do not know your child. There is no quick answer either. Keep those lines of communication open, validate his feelings, try to make him aware of his weaknesses for learning purposes, and most of all, remember to give him a hug. Good Luck. Always here to listen.
:-/Carol

[charliegirl]

How are things going with him now Sweetpea?

[sweetpea]

Gosh i dont want to jinx myself here. But yes he has been doing really well. Havent had any problems since the lunch detentions.
How about yours CG?

[charliegirl]

He is having issues with math so I need to have him tested for dyslexia but as for behavior, he scares me. He is doing too well.

He cleaned his room thoroughly and spends more time there. He has kept it clean for 2 weeks without my having to say a word, bringing homework home and doing it without being told. I haven't had a note from the school in weeks.

I want to ask him "Who are you and what did you do with my son?" but I'm afraid if I do, he will leave and the other boy will be back.

[sweetpea]

Ok i knew i was gonna jinx myself. Last night the phone rings. But by golly who's on the caller id. Yes you guessed it, the school. It was his case manager. Shes been helping in his english class and there were about 9 kids who kept talking to each other. And guess what, Jarred was one of those kids. She said he didnt start it all but he was boo hooing when she told all the kids they were getting a phone call home. Then i got to hear how there are 30 kids in this class and she just can not move his seat.
CG do not even ask where that other boy is. You just might end up jinxing yourself too..LOL. Good job with whatever you've been doing.