Post by misty on Jan 6, 2007 16:19:30 GMT -5
cynthiatweedle........................Thread Started on Apr 13, 2006, 2:26pm
For the siblings
Living with a brother or sister who has ADHD can present real conflicts for his or her siblings. For instance, a child with ADHD may push other siblings around or take their personal belongings. Perhaps the child with ADHD is incapable of completing household chores, leaving the bulk of responsibility to other siblings. Or maybe the time and attention spent on the child with ADHD leads other siblings to feel neglected. While they may dearly love their brother or sister with ADHD, siblings may argue and become disobedient because they resent how the disorder is affecting their lives.
www.adhdinfo.com/info/parents/living/par_adhd_and_family_life.jsp?checked=y
Does anyone else have situations where the siblings of the child with ADHD suffer? I am asking because I do have such a situation. My granddaughter without ADHD sometimes breaks down and cries "Why does she do this to me?" How would you answer such a question? I am at a loss.
Lisacap
I live with it daily, my daughter is always asking why she has to have him for a brother...and why they never get to do anything because of his behavior, when he is punished, it punishes the whole house...I find that I give in more to Christian, so that Mikayla and Justin can have some alone time with each other or with me...as they always say 3 is a crowd, the 2 little ones can play together for hours on end, and you don't know they are around as soon as Christian is in the picture, she is crying. It is very hard for her to understand why he does what he does, and now that she is getting older, she will say "Did he take his meds yet?" My explanation always is that he can't control what he does, and that he does love her, but she needs to some times just stay out of his way, when he is on a rampage...I did find that when he is acting up to them, and I totally ignore him, and take the other too and start to play a game or dance and sing around with them, he will eventually want to join in..but this time he is the odd man out, so he has to be the one to ask to join, and it keeps him under control for the time being...at that point she is the boss, not him...try doing something like that it may help, it does here for a while.....sorry so long...but I could go on and on forever....
For the siblings
Living with a brother or sister who has ADHD can present real conflicts for his or her siblings. For instance, a child with ADHD may push other siblings around or take their personal belongings. Perhaps the child with ADHD is incapable of completing household chores, leaving the bulk of responsibility to other siblings. Or maybe the time and attention spent on the child with ADHD leads other siblings to feel neglected. While they may dearly love their brother or sister with ADHD, siblings may argue and become disobedient because they resent how the disorder is affecting their lives.
www.adhdinfo.com/info/parents/living/par_adhd_and_family_life.jsp?checked=y
Does anyone else have situations where the siblings of the child with ADHD suffer? I am asking because I do have such a situation. My granddaughter without ADHD sometimes breaks down and cries "Why does she do this to me?" How would you answer such a question? I am at a loss.
Lisacap
I live with it daily, my daughter is always asking why she has to have him for a brother...and why they never get to do anything because of his behavior, when he is punished, it punishes the whole house...I find that I give in more to Christian, so that Mikayla and Justin can have some alone time with each other or with me...as they always say 3 is a crowd, the 2 little ones can play together for hours on end, and you don't know they are around as soon as Christian is in the picture, she is crying. It is very hard for her to understand why he does what he does, and now that she is getting older, she will say "Did he take his meds yet?" My explanation always is that he can't control what he does, and that he does love her, but she needs to some times just stay out of his way, when he is on a rampage...I did find that when he is acting up to them, and I totally ignore him, and take the other too and start to play a game or dance and sing around with them, he will eventually want to join in..but this time he is the odd man out, so he has to be the one to ask to join, and it keeps him under control for the time being...at that point she is the boss, not him...try doing something like that it may help, it does here for a while.....sorry so long...but I could go on and on forever....
