Feeling Sorry

[katiekat]

I feel that we are at a complete standstill as far as making any progress with Sean. Since I cannot find a psychiatrist(and believe me I have spent hours making phone calls)we cannot start any new medication, he cannot attend social skills classes, therefore the no progress. I would really like to move forward with this as his behavior is seriously affecting his relationships with his classmates. Yesterday was classroom observation day and although there were no problems when I was there for the AM session, my friend went to the PM session and the class had gym. She told me how bad she felt because the kids had to pair up and no one would be Sean's partner. They had to switch partners and do different activities and each time they all refused to be with Sean. There is an uneven amount of kids in the class so he had to partner with the gym teacher several times. When the teacher saw what was happening he started to assign partners-the child placed with Sean was not happy and made his displeasure known. My friend also told me how completely out of control Sean was. The gym teacher is a wonderfully patient man who is great with the kids, but even he was losing it with Sean. I am just so frustrated and I feel so bad. Sean is THAT KID. You know THAT KID, the one everyone picks on and nobody likes. I remember THAT KID from grade school. I do not want him to be THAT KID. I so want to help him and this situation. It will only get worse as the rest of the kids mature and Sean stays the same. Just feeling bad for him.

[misty]

I don't really know what to tell you. I feel bad too. I see you are doing everything you possibly can for him & I hope you get him a miracle SOON. I know exactly what you mean by "THAT KID". I still remember "THAT KID" from myown school days. No one wants that for their child. I'll be thinking hard about this & if I come up with anything at all, I'll post it...meanwhile I'm sorry I'm not much help.

[jj]

KK, You may just have to do a long drive for a psych and meanwhile put yourself on the waiting list of several others closer to you. I don't know what other choice you have?

[katiekat]

I realized that I may have to go further than I want to last week and called the far people already. I was even willing to go to a very, very, bad city close by because it has many Dr.'s offices in the business section of town. Same result-not accepting new patients. The best option I have right now is "call us back at the end of January." I am going to call the counselor at the school today, Sean's teacher told me that she spoke with her yesterday.

[jj]

Geeze, I guess we know what profession is in demand. That stinks you can't even find a far-away one. Of course at this point if you found one that had openings you'd probably question how good they are that they have openings.

[bugsmom]

KK...I'm so sorry your going through this. There is nothing worst than trying to help your child and you just don't know what to do. I so wish you lived near me, there are Child Psych all over our area. I know you don't live in the country...this is just unacceptable.

Anyway, I know that you've called all kinds of psych offices with no help and I had an idea. When Josh was having a terrible time 2 years ago and we knew that we needed a psychiatrist instead of the psychologist he was already seeing, I made a desperate call directly to the doctor. Someone reccomended our doctor to us, but I knew she would be booked solid because she's the head of the child psych department for a major university in our area. Anyway, I bypassed the office staff completely and asked for the doctors voice mail instead. I left a long desperate message (I wasn't lying...I was desperate) and she called me back within an hour. She also talked to me for almost 45 mins on the phone and we had appt within a week. Now, I know that this might not work for you, but I thought it might be worth a shot. I knew that if I just asked for an appt that it would be months away and I couldn't take that chance. So grab that phone again and just give it a try. I was in tears when I called and it worked for me.

I hope this helps. I've been racking my brain trying to think of what you could do. Hugs out to you tonight...(((((Hugs)))))

[katiekat]

It is worth a try and a very good idea. Thanks so much! I have noticed that on Fridays there is usually no one in the majority of psychiatrists offices and at quite a few of them the Dr's voice mail picks up. I am going to start at the beginning of my list and find my first few choices and give it a try next Friday. In the past I have just left my name and number saying I needed an appt. but no details. Believe me, I will sound desperate because I AM desperate. This is really a great idea Bugsmom and if it works I'm coming to your house and giving you a big hug!

[bugsmom]

Katie, I will be praying that this works for you. I made sure that when I called I KNEW the Doctor was in and when I called I just acted like a patient and asked the staff to connect me to the doctors voice mail. Most doctors will listen to their own mail, but I'm afraid if you call when the office is closed, the staff will listen to the machine and call you back instead. Just go down that list and give it your all. I have a feeling it might work!

[lostmyshoe]

Wishing you luck too KK. I know how you feel about your son being "That Kid". No one wanted to partner with my daughter in her Science class last year and she was so crushed. It made me cry. I sure hope you can find the doctor you are looking for as soon as possible. Praying for ya.

[notellin]

Behavioral pediatricians also do medication management.

The psychiatrists know the other psychiatrists in the area, and a doctor who says he isn't taking new patients can probably tell you who is.