annoying others

[jill]

Yeah I know it is part of ODD but still bothers and hurts me. Last night Annette had her winter concert she is in chorus and I noticed none of the other kids were talking to her and she sat alone that hurt me beyond belief. Then I noticed her shushing the other girls and was in their faces and I kept trying to signal to her to stop but she would not. She was totally oblivious to the looks she was getting and to what was going on around her I wanted to cry. Later on I talked to her about it trying to get through to her and she said the one girl is mean to her and told her to "shut up" so that is what started the whole thing it got her upset so she struck back but did not know how to stop herself for she does have the vengeful side. The girl in question she knew from girl scouts and she does appear to be a snotty brat and mean and the scary part is she knows about Annette's disability thanks to the old leader telling everyone in attempts to explain her behavior why we dropped out. I am at a loss on what to do for she does not listen to me I want her to have friends just a few and be liked.

[katiekat]

I know what you mean Jill. It is difficult to see your child with no friends. But at the same time you realize why they have no friends. I feel so bad for Sean because no kids will play with him. I see moms handing out birthday invitations and he is never invited. Even the one little boy who was his good friend last year does not play with him any more. It breaks my heart because he is always so alone. But then I see how he treats them. He is bossy and mean and always hits them. He acts like a baby and wants every thing his way. At first they allow him to bully them but after a while they strike back. Then they just refuse to play with him. I try to talk to him about hurting peoples feelings etc but it doesn't help. I cannot wait until he is on some medication so the social skills class will accept him. Has your daughter ever had any social skills classes? If not maybe you could look into that.

[sweetpea]

Sorry i dont have any advice. But i do feel sorry for your kids too. That has just got to be hard to watch.

[mary2]

Jill, I know exactly what you mean because I have been there many times. There was a time when I even didn't want to take my kid to parties because I always ended up heart broken when I saw how the other kids interacted with my son. The boy who used to be his best friend now is not wanting to be with him anymore and even excluded him from a "play club" they had formed saying that he does not belong because he doesn't have muscles and continuously tells him to shut his mouth. It is hard and very difficult to make them understand how to behave properly with the others; mine for example, uses a very loud tone of voice when he is too excited, so I keep telling him to lower it because speaking so loudly is not accepted by people.

I think I have told you before, but have you tried social skills classes. My son started attending one and what I like the most is that all kids who attend are from his school. I think that my son is starting to improve very little by little. At swimming class he has been interacting very well with other kids lately and I am very glad about it.

[jill]

I am planning to ask the psychologist about it or UB. My girl is not real bossy but does act flighty at times and has disgusting habits. Too bad we all did not live near each other so our children can be play friends and we can guide them so to speak. Thanks for hearing me out.

[morinho]

Well, i'd advice you to visit a psychologist.....It may be a better option.