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Post by jj on Feb 1, 2007 2:13:38 GMT -5
It's kind of funny LCdc. My life was the exact opposite of yours. We showed a lot of love in my family and emotions. It was no big deal if you cried about something. And then I had to face the real world!!! What a shock. I had to buck up and oh my gosh, that was not easy. I look at your life and wish I had more of that "bucking up" taught in my family.
Too bad we didn't have a healthy balance.
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Post by lcdc1 on Feb 1, 2007 2:33:48 GMT -5
Yeah that is funny!!! I guess balance is a good term - so true for me as an adult adhd'er!!! It seems like it is a balancing act of some sort - too many extremes is bad - a little here and a little there seems acceptable to society.
See there - I have learned a lot in these past couple days!!
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Post by John on Feb 1, 2007 12:55:31 GMT -5
And all for FREE ~ ~ ~ ~ And don't forget we tend to marry people who are totally opposite of our personality ~ WHAT's UP WITH THAT ! My DW family was mostly outgoing, always going out to restaurants for dinner, talking about life goals and guess what ? Yep, my family was the total OPPOSITE in every way. We didn't talk about feelings or express them in a Healthy way, we barely talked around the dinner table. And DW can't understand WHY I can't express my feelings or don't feel the the need talk when we're eating. I've Learned to do it some, but of course never enough for her to be happy [Her problems are ANOTHER matter - LOL] with. Barb, you are 'right on' with the forgiving thing. If we don't forgive, we let the ________ [whatever needs to be forgiven] Control and run our lives. It ends up Consuming our thought life and feeling and we become prisoners of the past, unable to live completly in the present.
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Post by lcdc1 on Feb 6, 2007 2:35:49 GMT -5
Maybe marrying an opposite is a good thing if it works? I married someone similar to myself and it was BAD!!!
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Post by lcdc1 on Feb 7, 2007 19:10:10 GMT -5
Hey John and all - did you see the latest TIME mag. about the brain. It is a series of articles that touch on science and stuff related to the things that have been learned about the brain recently.
Anyway one of the articles talks about how the brain can be rewired at any age and talks about how CBT can do that!!! Check it out sometime.
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Post by misty on Feb 7, 2007 19:19:03 GMT -5
Lcdc1, I looked it up & the entire article is ONLINE! heres part: Schwartz called it "self-directed neuroplasticity," concluding that "the mind can change the brain."
The same is true when cognitive techniques are used to treat depression. Scientists at the University of Toronto had 14 depressed adults undergo CBT, which teaches patients to view their own thoughts differently--to see a failed date, for instance, not as proof that "I will never be loved" but as a minor thing that didn't work out.
Depressed brains responded differently to the two kinds of treatment--and in a very interesting way. CBT muted overactivity in the frontal cortex, the seat of reasoning, logic and higher thought as well as of endless rumination about that disastrous date. Paroxetine, by contrast, raised activity there. On the other hand, CBT raised activity in the hippocampus of the limbic system, the brain's emotion center. Paroxetine lowered activity there. As Toronto's Helen Mayberg explains, "Cognitive therapy targets the cortex, the thinking brain, reshaping how you process information and changing your thinking pattern. It decreases rumination, and trains the brain to adopt different thinking circuits."Read the entire article: CLICK HERE
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Post by lcdc1 on Feb 8, 2007 1:20:52 GMT -5
Yeah cool for posting that link. I have never bought a time mag before but that one caught my eye as I am still in the process of trying to understand my own mind (good luck on that one!).
Ever since I started this medication 7 or so months ago - i have gone through a lot of soul (mind) searching and trying to define the true me or something like that and I often wonder why I have become such a thinking and feeling person in the 7 months? I also go through these phases of kicking myself for having adhd to telling myself I have moved in a positive direction for me and my family - kinda like a grieving stage to acceptance thing with all this.
I kinda wish that they would develop something that would enable us to reroute wiring in brains like mine - not sure it is CBT for me though - cause I am one that kind of freaks inside about talking about past stuff in person!!!
It was interesting to me when the articles talked about our consciesness and how the brain builds that for us and how the brain takes in so much information that our thoughts are just an overflow of unprocessed information - HUHM, sounds familar to me with a processing LD and adhd!!!
I dunno - I think too much and I really liked the parts of the article that were touching on deep thoughts and why people have them? I don't like this new me of overthinking stuff and hope that I can start learning to shut my brain off from the unnecessary chatter it experiences.
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Post by John on Feb 8, 2007 10:56:22 GMT -5
Hey John and all - did you see the latest TIME mag. about the brain. Anyway one of the articles talks about how the brain can be rewired at any age and talks about how CBT can do that!!! Check it out sometime. LCDC ~ I did see that but never got around to tlking about it here . . . I'm Glad yoU Did it for mE ! I'm still in the process of reading it & digesting it & thinking about thinking about it . . . > > > THANK YOU for bring ing it up here. THANK YOU DAWN for posting the LINK > > > ;D I to tend to think & think & Over.Think & get nothing done. It's waY better then it used to be with the Med's. I can see a Big difference in myself . . . it was like my brain was on one of the tapes that just keeps playing it self on a 'loop'. I not sure if they tlk in this article about our brain storeing all this information, 'cause we can't process everything at once, and our subconscious then 'feeds' us information a little at a time. Our brain is Frustrating AND Cool at the same time ! I saw a piece on 20/20 or a show like that about a person who had Autism. He could function and communicate very well and was a math wiz. They wanted to see how much of a language he could learn in one week. They picked what they said was the hardest language to learn which they claimed to be the language of Iceland. He had a tutor and by the end of a week he could converse with the Icelanders very well. Just Amazing . . .
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Post by lcdc1 on Feb 9, 2007 19:36:55 GMT -5
I read some more in the time magazine during lunch break today - since I have no appetite!!
I read this one excerpt about the possibility of erasing memories and thought that would be pretty cool if they could selectively delete the really bad and bothersome ones!!
I read about the new ABA brain imaging they can do now and it is fasanating to me - I would volunteer in a study to have my brain scanned - I wonder if there is really any truth to the fact that some of the nueroscientists beleive they will be able to rewire the brain and cure things like Post traumatic stress, OCD, and others - I did not see anything about adhd though!!!
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Post by laurapalmer on Feb 9, 2007 21:31:47 GMT -5
Maybe marrying an opposite is a good thing if it works? I married someone similar to myself and it was BAD!!! I married an opposite!!! LOL
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