ARRRGGGGHHHH!!!!! school issues

[Tigger]

Ok my son Michael came home yesterday and told me that his teacher told him that he dont have ADHD and that he can control himself so he better knock it off!!!!!! I am sick of this, we did go to tell school and there was no one there.So we will be going there on monday, I am just needing to vent, this is making me mad.

[John]

I would be ticked off also . . . what makes this 'teacher' qualified to give medical advice ? Where is her medical license from ?

If you wanted to, you could get her for practicing medicine without a license . . . LoL

[trid]

Tig, don't let the teacher off on this one. John's right (oh, don't let John hear me say that though!)

I kind of get it now that my Mike is 20, and sometimes uses his ADHD as an excuse to be lazy, but the teacher's denial isn't helping your son get things accomplished.

Instead of the teacher looking for one-sided control, he/she could try to meet Michael half way. Visual or verbal cues that he's pushing the wrong buttons would be more beneficial to both Michael and her control of the entire classroom. Our kids already know that they are "different" and having the teacher suggest that it's his CHOICE to misbehave is only going to crush his spirit to learn.

It stinks that we have to continually educate the "educators" on how to educate. Grrrrr! I am venting with you in spirit.

[Tigger]

Thanks John and Trig!!! I agree and we will be going to the school on monday, It makes me so mad that a teacher and treat kids this way that has problems. How can they even do that. It is so wrong

[charliegirl]

Tig,

I would insist he be moved into another classroom with a different teacher. Its early enough in the school year that he should be able to assimilate into another room easily. That teacher has declared war on Michael and ADHD.

Being disciplined for her behavior isn't going to turn her into an advocate for him. There are many ways she can make his life at school miserable without taking such an open stance. Little comments, looks, etc can easily turn the class against him.

Even though you are going to the school to discuss this it is important that you submit a formal complaint in writing with a receipt to show they got it. Keep a copy for yourself.

You need to start keeping detailed, written records of everything that happens to Michael, everything that is said, etc.

When you get home from the school immediately write down exactly what was discussed, quoting whoever you talk to whenever possible. Send it return receipt requested to whoever you talked to. Write it as a letter stating you discussed *** on X/X/2010 and this is your understanding of what was decided. Ask them to clarify anything you may have misunderstood. Keep a copy for your records.

Legally, if it isn't in writing it wasn't said so you need to make sure you can produce written confirmation of any verbal discussions or agreements with the school that will affect Michael.

[John]

Good advice Barb . . .


Trid ~ I heard that.

[jj]

I'm 100% with what Barb said. You cannot let this slide. I wouldn't trust that teacher for anything now.

[Tigger]

O don't worry we are not letting this slide. We are taking the boys to school and then the fight begins!!!! I am outraged on this. So lets see what we can get done this morning. Michael said she is a new teacher so give her a break mom!!! I said that dont matter you still dont do this. But I will keep you all informed what happens ok.

[misty]

well...how did it go at the school this morning?

[Tigger]

Sorry guys, Well when we went to the school and talked to the princepal, he was just as outraged as we were. and he told us that she was a new teacher. and He went and got her and we all got to confront her,she told us that she didnt believe in ADHD, and that if she would feel so much better if she didnt have michael or any child that has ADHD in her class. Which made me more mad,but I was not going to get into that with her, I just told the princepal just take michael out of that class so I dont get madder. So Michael is in a different class and I wont have to deal with her again I hope.