Swearing

[lillian]

Have times changed or what? If I had talked to my mom like that, my only-spanked-me-twice-in-my-entire-life father would have knocked me out. I would have woken up on the floor hours later, saying, "Where am I? What happened?" Then my mother would have taken her infamous sly swatter to me . I knew that certain behaviors were not allowed and cussing Mom out? OMG! And, I have to admit, I am my parents' child. If my son cussed me out... .

Personally, I would do a lot more than take away the phone for a night. I'd ground her for a week or two, unless you have a very vocal family, where you guys have the tendancy to say these things to one another when you get heated. I've known plenty of loving, stable, great families, who are that way, so I don't mean to judge harshly.

[jill]

I am glad I do not have to deal with it yet my girl knows what swear words are but does not say them and I gave her credit for knowing them and knowing not to say them.

[anon4now]

For some reason, my son NEVER swears. Once when he was about 3, he said to me from the back seat, "I can't wait until I can drive." I asked why, and he said "Then I can honk the horn and say Move out of the way you f'n a'holes!" (But he actually said it.) I had to stifle my laughing and yell but it was hilarous. After that day, never again.

Then once I was driving and I said "freaking a." because that is how I swear lol. And he says (he was 5 mind you) "Mom, I know the S- one and I know the F- one, but what is the A- one?" I told him never mind and sent him of to kindergarten.

Misty, ever try the swear jar? You have to drop a quarter in if you swear. Then use the money for your choice of something. Then the whole family has to be involved.

Just a thought,
Anon

[puzzled]

I am fortunate that the only one of mine that sweared (the 'F' word, as it turns out) at me was jonna and she was about a week away from turning 19, but she still got my hand on her mouth. Chelsea never has and the boys either.

Jake, I am sure, at age 14, almost 15 does use the words with his peers, and he did cuss out the bus driver (a sub, the one that used to be their driver, very inept, but still no excuse) a month or so ago. I expected a write up from her in his record, but the bus supervisor says nothing ever came across his desk, I am thinking that he so shocked that bus driver (he is usually quite respectful to those in authority) that she did nothing, or that the gist of what he was saying was correct. She was telling him to calm down, he was yelling at people that had been mercilessly teasing Chase (who was busy ignoring them with his MP3 player headphones on), and he turned to her and using foul language, told her if she would just do HER job, he would not have to try to take care of matters. Then he stormed off the bus because all this happened as he was exiting at home.

Anyhow, he has not ever used it on my, but he HAS copped a major attitude at times, teenager to the core. I do have an issue, however with the way that they substitute the word "friggin" or "freakin" for the "f" word. It sounds too close to the real cuss word and I make them rephrase when they use it too. They don't like it, but oh well, too bad.

[dimples74]

AHHHHH! The language thing kills me. I slip in a little dirty word every now and then, but not in the prescence of my children......My mother in law curses a lot, even around the kids. I often say --- ehhh, ehhh, as a nice way of telling her to shutup! I know I have replaced swear words with other words like snot, shot, poot, and silly stuff like that.....Noah has started saying "Snot" to EVERYTHING. Let's back track to the part where he babbles a lot, so when he gets started, all you hear is "oh shot," "Ahh oh Shot." I have issues with Oh My God. Mama didn't allow that or Oh My God in my house. We couldn't even say "Shut UP." I said H out of context and she grounded me. I lived my life with a red tail and stuck in my room........Let's not even start with the school bus. I stand out there with Noah listening to the boys in the neighborhood and they are like 4th & 5th graders and they are already talking about women's breasts and they curse and it drives me NUTS! I can tolerate a lot, but the one thing that makes my skin crawl is the GD thing and the F thing. My mother in law says the GD thing a lot. You have to know that it is a very common thing in the south. There are several classes of Southern people. You have: City Folk, Common Folk, Country People, Rednecks, Back Woods, and then there is Trash. Mother in law is in that Back Woods category. Throws in a monkey wrench. My nephew is Noah's best friend and on the way to church 2 weeks ago, I heard him say, "D*** Dana." I can't remember what it was in reference to. His Mama has an "UGGGGLY" mouth. I pretended like I didn't hear it b/c I figured making a big deal of it would make it worse.......

I am not looking forward to those teen years. I think they come earlier and earlier these days.

I change the church sign and here is a quote I am going to have to put on next---I saw it going down the road the other day.
"A dam holds back water. It is not my last name!" -God

[charliegirl]

I don't allow my son or his friends to use any swear words in my presence but I mainly just let them know my displeasure. When it comes to using God or Jesus in any manner, they get it much worse. I point out that using those names is totally disrespectful and ask them how they would like it if someone used their names as a curse word.

I also point out that if someone used another name from another religion such as Buddah or Mohammed as a swear word, there would be a major outcry against them because the people who practice that religion would be severely offended. We are Christians and I think its disgusting that people who claim to worship God and Jesus will use their names like that.

I do make a major issue of that. I'd rather hear the F word than my Lord's name used that way.

[puzzled]

I used to swear more but lets face it in my line of work, you can't. I started to say "God Bless It!" When I get exasperated. My mom gets a kick out of it, she says it is as if I am asking God t bless whoever has me flustered.

[lcdc1]

I hear cussing in my line of work out in the field all the time, I hardly ever use it, no need to! My tone is all I need to get peoples attention, I do slip with a bad word now and then if I am really at my last control button, most people know that calm in me is more of a warning sign than language! My daughters are the same way, it is a look or a stance or tone that gets peoples attention. I seriously doubt either one would cuss me out, but I am prepared if they do! I always tell them that if people cuss me out, they had better be prepared to back it up!

[misty]

My mom always says "Jesus H. Christ" when shes mad. Its the only swear phrase I ever heard her say. We always asked her what the H was for but she never had an answer. When my sister & I were kids we were scared to death to ever say any swear words & to this day if I swear I feel guilty like my parents might find out. LOL. I think a big problem with swearing today is that so many parents just don't care what their kids say (or even do).I see it all the time. The parents use the swear words as a part of everyday speech & so do their kids. So of course our kids are gonna try it. After all, all their peers talk that way. Its up to us to stop it & show them that its unacceptable. That day Shannon swore at me was (so far) the only time. I got the point across that I will not stand for that language coming out of her cute little mouth.

[jmb3]

My friend had 4 kids, 3 boys 1 girl. They had a rule that applied to their kids or anyone that was visiting in the house.

If you swear, you need to pay $1.00 into the swear jar. If forgot what she did with the money.

I am using this too. It helps us.