Growing up as the Sibling of an ADHDer

[charliegirl]

katiekat said:

Oh jeez, I'll ask Joseph to write something but I dont know if I'd be able to post it here!

I know just what you mean!

[katiekat]

Ok, here's my 10 year old son Joe's take on things. Surprisingly I did not have to edit.

It is hard to have a brother with ADHD because he is annoying. When you tell him to stop doing something even when you ask nice he won't. He gets up early and makes lots of noise when I'm trying to sleep. He makes it very hard to live with him. He makes our whole house crazy. From making noise with his food to jumping off his bed everything he does is to annoy people. He takes everything to the limit. I wish he would stop doing these things but he just keeps going. I dont know anything about his life, I dont even know his favorite color because you cant just talk to him without him starting up with the annoying you. Most of the time I think we will never get along.

[aphrodite]

Wow brothers are so much kinder in their writing than sisters, if i asked my girls to write something about damian and his adhd one in particular would go to town and hardly be so nice.

way to go boys, you have impressed me with compassion and honesty. Its okay to feel annoyed, its just how you cope with feeling annoyed with others that matters.

what lovely boys.

[charliegirl]

Thank you KatieKat! Please tell Joe we really appreciate his taking the time to do this. It was wonderfully honest.

Maybe we should have a thread by the ADHDers themselves, just to balance out things. I'd love to hear their side of the story. LOL

[crazyhouse]

Wow Joe seems to have quite a handle on whats going on around him. He sounds like he did a great job of expressing his point of view on the whole situation. Joe that was really great. One thing I always try to tell myself and this may come in handy with Joe, don't sweat the small stuff. When you get older it will keep you happier healthier and help you in everyday life. It helps me anyways in the house of crazies

[puzzled]

Chelsea still has not written her little piece (not sure if she will ) but she had to do an interview with someone for her psychology counseling class and she did one on Chase and how he feels about his ADHD. I am going to transcribe it and post it once she gets it back and graded. It went really well and she got all teary when he described how he feels about it to her....

[charliegirl]

That will be a wonderful addition here Puzzled. Thank you.

[snowflake]

Oh he is such a sweet boy, i was in two minds about opening this post when i read the heading, as i know how hard it is for corey-max, being the middle child with a younger sister, sometimes has to give in & let his sister have something becos she is younger & has'nt learned to understand, & with mikey being adhd, has to give in there too, it's hard for him as he still only 7 years old, we have days just for each of them, one to one so none of them feel left out, i use to praise mikey alot, until i realised i need to praise corey-max also, & now the baby, she might be the youngest but she sure is'nt stupid!!!!

[charliegirl]

snowflake said:

i use to praise mikey alot, until i realised i need to praise corey-max also, & now the baby, she might be the youngest but she sure is'nt stupid!!!!

So true and they all need to know they are loved and valued for who they are and not just because they are our kids. My son told me once that I loved him because you have to love your kids and I realized I needed to let him know just why he is special to me.

[notellin]

My question is, does the non-ADHD sibling suffer a ripple effect in school. Do the teachers made negative assumptions, are they more under the microscope, etc.