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Post by katiekat on Dec 18, 2007 16:35:57 GMT -5
So far two good days in a row! May not have a dilemma after all. Tomorrow he'll earn back the TV if he has another good day.
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Post by jill on Dec 19, 2007 8:06:39 GMT -5
A thought if you are continuing to discipline the same way and he still is not getting it he may not be able to control himself to some extent. I say this for that is what our psychologist said to me and he did observe her acting up and feels sometimes she is not in control. Food for thought.
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Post by katiekat on Dec 19, 2007 11:59:03 GMT -5
It appears he has control because when something is important to him (like yugioh cards and TV) he is very well behaved at school. I'm expecting he will have another good day today and earn back his television. However- once he gets that back all bets are off.
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Post by jill on Dec 19, 2007 18:50:33 GMT -5
hmmm you got me. It may have to be something to continue or have him just earn privileges each day if you are good you earn x amount of TV time, x amount of whatever although almost same concept.
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Post by misty on Dec 19, 2007 23:21:11 GMT -5
They ALL have control when they really want something. Thats just one of the mysteries of our ADDers! The problem is that the control just doesn't last. Also, home is their safety zone so they tend to lose the control the minute they walk through that door. Think about how hard he has to try to hold it together in school...what a relief it must be to his system to feel he can relax at home & just be himself. I feel bad for him. I feel bad for all our kids & the struggles they face every day.
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Post by katiekat on Dec 19, 2007 23:34:30 GMT -5
Another good day...that makes 6 out of 8 good days. It is an all time record. That Dr Phil is a genius.
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Post by misty on Dec 20, 2007 10:30:21 GMT -5
That Dr Phil is a genius. KK, do you realize that Dr. Phil is widely hated among parents of ADHDers? He believes that ADHD is just a result of bad parenting.  I wouldn't take any advice he gave, personally. He's a fake. |
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Post by jj on Dec 20, 2007 12:30:24 GMT -5
Don't even get me started on Dr. Phil. LOL I don't disagree with the concept of getting back to basics but Dr. Phil sure didn't create that idea. I bet there isn't a parent out there that didn't try taking away everything if what they were doing wasn't working.
But I honestly believe that we all fall short with consistancy in our discipline and it isn't necessarily the type of discipline or rules we have in place.
One thing that troubles me very much is reading how adult Adder's look back on their childhood. They felt they were stupid, always the bad kid, always in trouble, always doing everything wrong and feeling forced to try to fit a mold that they can never achieve. And it breaks my heart.
I sure don't know the answers but we just have to find ways to make their childhoods a positive exerience and not always looking at the bad. Somehow.
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Post by puzzled on Dec 20, 2007 13:14:47 GMT -5
jj that is EXACTLY how jon feels about himself. And no amount of success as an adult has cured that. He owns two successful, money making businesses, one for over 25 years and one for over 18 years, but still feels a failure. We tell him, his family tells him...that he is a successful but he doesn't buy it. That is the main reason I want to be sure to be positive with chase as much as possible...
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Post by katiekat on Dec 20, 2007 13:15:33 GMT -5
I've never heard him say that. Whenever there is a child with behavior issues the first thing he always says is to find out if there are medical reasons that could be causing them. I have heard him blame parents for some things-like teens using drugs. And honestly I think that is partly the parents fault.
I still like him.
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