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Post by charliegirl on Jan 15, 2008 9:39:31 GMT -5
My son finally told his father today why he has been insisting he can't go to gym class and needs an excuse to get out of it.
The bully who has bothered him since they were toddlers has started a new game. Instead of being satisfied with punching and name calling, the kid pulled his pants down and rubbed his butt against my son in the locker room last week.
I've had it! The principal is getting an e-mail and a phone call today. I want something done and done now! This has gone on too long and IEP or not, that boy has serious problems and either needs severe discipline or if they believe he couldn't control himself (I think he could), he needs a more restricted environment.
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Post by katiekat on Jan 15, 2008 9:47:03 GMT -5
This makes me furious!!! Oh I would be so mad if I were you. Not only is this completely inappropriate but it is also disgusting. I just heard on the news the other day that a 6 year old girl was suspended for kissing a boy on the bus because it was considered sexual harassment. This goes way beyond that and I really hope the principal takes it seriously and does something drastic to this kid who definitely has some serious issues. Let us know how it goes.
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Post by misty on Jan 15, 2008 9:57:41 GMT -5
No wonder Jonathan is avoiding gym! Thats terrible! The school should do something ASAP. Most districts don't take sexual harassment lightly. Meanwhile, give him the gym excuse....he shouldn't have to go through that. Oh, that makes me so MAD! Where are the adults when these things happen? There should be an adult in the locker rooms since thats when things like this usually happen.
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Post by bugsmom on Jan 15, 2008 11:32:31 GMT -5
CG...I am as shocked as the others! That is absolutely unacceptable! Your much stronger than me...I would have been beating down that principles door in a second. Poor Jonathan...I'd excuse him too. I know that if that happened at Josh's school it would be immediate suspension. Hugs to you today...please let us know what happens! My blood is boiling over this one!  |
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Post by jj on Jan 15, 2008 11:37:03 GMT -5
Oh boy! All I have to say is they better be jumping through hoops to take care of this problem. That is soooo disgusting and unacceptable.
Now the little girl that kissed the boy that KK mentioned. That is just stupid. Little kids kiss and hug.
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Post by charliegirl on Jan 15, 2008 17:38:01 GMT -5
I drafted a letter and posted it on Schwab for the folks there to critique. They suggested some good changes and I made them, then waited for my son to get home so I could make sure I had my facts straight. I'm glad I did. He managed to back away so the kid never made contact, just tried to.
I won't hear from the principal until tomorrow. I hope she calls and doesn't leave me hanging. If I don't have a letter in my hand or at least a phone call by Thursday afternoon, I'm giving her a call to make sure she got it.
I intend to see something done to stop the harassment of my son. The school code states that any child who threatens the security or well being of another is in serious trouble.
There are many steps they have to take to do anything since I'm quite sure the kid is on an IEP but able to control his behavior or he wouldn't be singling out one kid for the bulk of his bullying. He is under 14, unfortunately. If he were 14 they would have to hand it over to the authorities and not try to handle it in school.
I'd love to see them do more than slap his wrist this time. Yes, he has issues but so do other kids, and it isn't fair to them to let them be abused and threatened sexually by another student for years.
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Post by lcdc1 on Jan 15, 2008 22:00:07 GMT -5
OH NO! that is totally unacceptable, I would write the letter to the principal and say it is a draft and put that once they review it, you are going to finalize it and make sure the school board also recieves it and from there you will decide if their actions in taking care of the problem are sufficient before you take it to any other steps.
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Post by charliegirl on Jan 16, 2008 17:45:41 GMT -5
I did send a letter out yesterday afternoon. I still haven't heard back, which is unusual but I worded the letter more strongly than I usually do.
I'll wait until Friday and then give her a call if I haven't heard something by then. Its possible she is waiting until they have checked it out and have an idea of what they are going to do before she contacts me.
They will be doing something. I also found a wonderful advocate who is going to help me get him the testing he needs. I'm sure if they try to ignore this experience my son had in gym she will have some ideas as to the best way to take action there, also.
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Post by charliegirl on Jan 16, 2008 18:38:49 GMT -5
I got a response. That kid won't be allowed to change in the locker room with the others from now on. They questioned a lot of the kids in my son's class and none of them will admit having seen it happen. I hope that at least one kid is willing to come forward. The kids who aren't buddies with the bully are afraid of him and what he will do but all we need is one who is credible to admit it.
I reminded her I was hoping there would be an adult in the locker room because I didn't want the bully's friends taking it out on my son for squealing.
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Post by sweetpea on Jan 16, 2008 19:02:20 GMT -5
Oh lordy that is disgusting. Even if he did not get into contact. Sounds like that kid has some serious problems and i can understand why your son would not want to go to gym. If that had been one of my children i would have probably beat down the principles door. I get very livid about things. Thats why i come here to talk about it, cuz i would probably just explode sometimes. Good job for your son to be able to tell. Especially something like that. That kid needs a good kick in the butt.
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